How long does the honeymoon period last

[kijast]

Been married 3 months (together for 11 months) very quick yes

And I just feel it's gone a bit stale. We were completely loved up say a month ago and now it feels different . Not as many I love you's no spur of the moment DTD we bicker more (cooking etc)
Not sure if this is normal ?

Totally normal. Although getting married so quickly, you dont know him all that well, nor have much experience of relating to him specifically to fall back on...

It sounds like a normal relationship, however the difference is you got legally tied together before that showed up. Isn't it meant to be like 18 months or something to show if you are actually compatible with someone?

To be honest I think you married a stranger, been there, done it myself.
Engaged after two weeks and married in six months, absolutely crazy now looking back.
I really did not know him at all and he presented in the first few months as someone completely different to who he really was deep down.
Clearly an ex now.

Two years for us.

Why did you marry so soon? You may feel that you know each other, but you don't.

Sounds like your whole relationship is on fast forward if you're bored with him already!

Sorry, not sure what to suggest...

Honeymoon period normally vanishes after about a year, or once you start living together, and you fall into the natural relationship.

You got married in the middle of the honeymoon period, where everyone is on their best behaviour. Now you will see what the relationship will actually be

I think every relationship is different, I got engaged after a year and we got married after 18 months together - it's our 2nd wedding anniversary this year and our 4th official anniversary together - our honeymoon period didn't last very long though as certain circumstances made it so my DH was living with me after 5 months but it's what we knew we wanted and you may have got married fast but sometimes time doesn't matter, some people get married after like 10 years together and get divorced after like 3 months so it's kinda whatever- good luck and congratulations

After 11 months you don't really know each other so it could be that this would be the natural course. I feel that a lot of relationships struggle after a year as it's around the time you start to really be yourself. Why did you choose to get married so quickly?

14 months and still going strong here. We’re not married though

Honeymoon periods not worn off for us, and its been 16 years. We were also quick, moved in after 3 months and pregnant with DS after another 2. I don;t think there has to be a "honeymoon period" tbh, it just changes in time, so our love is deeper even though we argue a lot.

I suspect things feel stale as theres nothing much to look forward to and everything seems a bit bleak all over.

I'd echo the fact that it's maybe more due to the fact that there's nowhere to go and nothing to do, so you're both feeling somewhat 'let down'.

I'd like to think that if this year had been more 'normal', you'd both still be feeling great and still in the 'honeymoon period'.

Cut yourself, and your DP, some slack. Try to have a chat about how you're both feeling and see if you can't think up some ways to have a little fun together again.

Was also engaged within 3 months married after 10.5 months, there were so many warning signs that we were not going to be compatible long term but I ignored them.
My dad apparently gave it a year max (we made it to 7 years married and 2dc’s). Anyhow to answer your original question - honeymoon period probably lasted until just after wedding ie sex daily, romantic gestures etc
It’s weird - I have been in a relationship for 14 months since I left exH and I truly can’t imagine what I was thinking getting married to quickly, I recognise me and my bf are really still getting to know each other. We were definitely in honeymoon period until lockdown which put us quickly into normal territory

I wouldn't call it a 'honeymoon' period, but I think relationships change when you move from dating to living together and managing adult life. It's a big adjustment to live together and your relationship becomes one that is much more about remembering to take out the bins and budgeting and meal planning, etc. than about planning dates and weekends away and all the other fun things you do in the early stages of a relationship. I think that's probably much harder when you don't have much of a foundation to build on. Dh and I definitely found it a change to move in together (we'd dated for 3 years before we got married, but 2 of those very long distance from opposite sides of the world). But we had 3 years of fun and no big responsibilities to built on. But it's also quite possible that you still don't know each other very well yet and you are just now getting to see different sides of each other.

14 months here as well and still very much in the honeymoon period. We arent living together and I'm sure that's playing a roll in this.

I'd say the "honeymoon period" when you're both totally loved up usually lasts between a year and two years. Yours may have been shorter than average because you moved in together so quickly. I don't think getting married shortens the honeymoon period, but living together (married or unmarried) definitely does. You see a new side to each other when you're living together as no one can be on their "best behaviour" all the time. I agree that lockdown may also have affected things for you - fewer romantic candlelit meals etc?

The honeymoon period can't last forever. The question is, are you happy with this new version of the relationship?

I think it takes 2 years to know someone well as that just tends to be a long enough period for life events such as health, financial stress, work stress etc. You're all only know someone when they have been through tough periods as it shows how they react.

The honeymoon phase will wear off more quickly of living together as life just gets in the way. When dating you are prioritising the other person so it is a completely different dynamic.

How old are you both?

It depends what you class as the honeymoon period, really! We're six years in - still say I love you often, we kiss and hold hands, we enjoy each other's company more than ever, we love each other more completely and deeply than we ever have because we've been through a lot together and we would rather do it with one another then anyone else.

But we're not on 'best behaviour', we bicker occasionally, we have sex less often, we don't always make an effort to dress up or look good for one another as much as we should, we are not always setting the world on fire with passion. We settled into this stage after a year so (when we moved in together) - but it doesn't feel like a bad thing, we're definitely not 'just friends', we're just not in the first flush of a new relationship. He's still the person I want to spend my life with, have sex with, debate with, live with. Not being all-out passionate all the time doesn't mean there's anything wrong - but the underlying love, respect and attraction still needs to be there, otherwise you just don't really like one another anymore. And, with the best will in the world, I don't believe you've built enough of a foundation for those things after a few months.

Nearly 2 years in and still definitely honeymoon period here. We don’t live together though and I think that makes a real difference. I’m always excited to see him, we’re still dating - we make plans and do fun things together. From previous experience, the day to day intimacy of living together (sorting out who’s doing the shopping/cleaning/washing/cooking etc) often heralds the end of the honeymoon period. Not necessarily in a bad way though. You get to know each other better/deeper and that can be really lovely.

But.... you did move very quickly with this man. You don’t know him yet, really and he doesn’t know you. I guess this is where you find out if what you have is going to go the distance. Have you talked to him about the changes you’ve noticed?

Been together 12 years and totally loved up. Met and were inseparable from the word go and Moved in after two months (but married after 8 years!) . Nothing stale here just keeps getting better

Hmm, pretty quickly after you move in together in my very extensive experience!

I first met my husband end of April 2014, we became a couple 9th may 2014. We decided to start trying for a baby in July 2014, we moved in together in October 2014, I got pregnant in November 2014, we found out I was pregnant 19th December 2014. We got engaged 13th January 2015, and got married 9th April 2015. Baby was due 30th August 2015, was actually born on 5th September 2015.
So we had been together exactly 11 months the day we got married. I know it's very quick, being married and expecting a baby within less than a year of being together, but it worked for us. We had discussed marriage and both agreed it was what we wanted, but we weren't officially engaged. But we knew it was important to us to be married before the baby was born, so we made sure we were. It was perfect.
I'd just turned 21 when we met, he was 29. I was a student and he worked full time but we still made it work, and couldn't be happier.
We are still extremely happy now. Never once regretted our decisions at all

Biologically the loved up hormonal bit is supposed to last the first about 1-2 years because that's how long it takes to raise a baby to toddlerhood and therefore the mother can gather again and/or leave the child for periods with other women and the man is less essential to the human race surviving at that point.

Best to marry after that initial stage is over. Too late now though so keep your fingers crossed!

Oh dear OP

marry in haste, repent at leisure

A year here and going strong, lived together since lock down. Still feels amazing.

Every relationship goes through ups and downs but as others have said you really need that solid foundation of love and mutual affection, respect etc regardless of what’s happening. I think you need to have a frank and honest discussion to explain how you’re feeling. Maybe you both need to make more effort to have date nights, time to talk and focus on each other without outside distractions.
I think it’s normal to bicker sometimes, especially when you live together and lockdowns are happening. But if it’s often and it’s hurtful it can wear you down and build into a bigger problem.