Does this class as abuse.. I don't know what to do?

[Lex23]

Need advice on what to do, I feel like I can't do anything right... It's a bit long winded

I know what people are going to say already but I need to ask anyway for clarity,
I'm living with my partner (24) of 5 years and a nearly year old baby. Don't get me wrong he does help out with the baby and help clean the house but most of the time he's watching YouTube gaming videos or playing games on his phone. I'm not saying he can't have his time to relax and do things for himself, but he'll be playing games while watching the baby.

Today all I was doing was moving the baby's high chair but the baby was holding onto my leg so I was clearly struggling, he just stands there trying to tell me about some YouTube video he's watching and because I didn't respond cause I was busy he got pissy at me and stormed out of the room 😑 I'm at my wits end with him, I've already told him today to keep a closer eye on the baby because he keeps falling when I'm not in the room... Whenever I peek in on them he's sat on his phone playing angry birds...

If this was my only problem I'd think we could work on it but he's always shouting at me 😔 I don't feel like I can breathe without him thinking I'm sighing and getting annoyed because he thinks I'm annoyed at him for lord knows what reason... It's being going on for a while like this but the pandemic has made him a lot worse, he goes to smoke weed to calm down but without a joint he just gets angry and punches things, he's broken doors, put holes in walls... When he broke his hand on a door once he found it funny and was upset that nobody felt sorry for him, I feel like he didn't learn a lesson from that at all. I keep asking him to stop shouting at me and he says he will if I stop doing things to make him shout... I can't walk on egg shells forever...

What should I do my brain is telling me to leave and get away from it all but with the pandemic I'm scared to leave and be on my own but I know I should for my little boy... I don't know what options I have in this situation... I have nowhere to go, I have agrophobia and never get out of the house these days 😔 I just don't know what I can do I just don't want to be stuck like this and want my boy to grow up without shouting around him..

Get away from him and fast. He cannot be trusted with a baby ffs!

Have you somewhere to go or some support?
At the very least you need to be planning to leave.
It's not normal to punch walls.

Hmm does sound like it, sorry
He shouts at you then blames you
He is aggressive - punching things
You can't breathe
You've got agoraphobia but it might be the toxic relationship that is making you feel or adding to your anxiety. He doesn't sound like someone who is on your side.

Start looking, quietly maybe, at the practicalities of leaving, finance etc.

He shouts at you, he punches walls, he smokes weed (in the house, i bet) he neglects his son.... what a catch he sounds. You need to get away from him, before he stops just punching walls and starts punching you and your son.

Do you work? Is the house rented or mortgaged? Do you have family or friends who could put you up temporarily?

Don’t wait till he punches you or the baby.
Get rid of him.

He sounds unhelpful and immature.
Not a healthy environment for you or the little one.

It’s also worrying that you have to ask if this is abuse. What sort of childhood did you have? Were you exposed to violence and drug use?