I thought I’d start this new thread as I was on another and really don’t want to hijack it . Basically it was about whether men would be put off by saggy skin . I commented that I felt they would be superficial assholes if so and basically turn the other cheek as there are better people out there but was told I’m wrong . I felt that basically if they were in a position of wanting sex with her then saw the saggy akin and went off her over something that is part of what makes her her . Part of her life experience etc
Anyway....The subject is close to home as a close family member is actually experiencing this very situation . It’s a little different in that the poster here was as a result of weight loss and my person is the result of pregnancy and weight loss . However her husband has flat out told her it’s a turn off . The sex is apparently lukewarm no passion and he’s heavily invested in using porn
All along I’ve felt very protective of her and that he is indeed very superficial but is this something people think is ok
I mean I realise that some people will say there’s a difference in that her saggy skin is a result of giving him a child but either way if the argument is that men ( or women ) cannot help it if they are not attracted because of this saggy skin then at the end of the day she is really in the same boat
Has anyone been in this situation and how did they handle it . She is terrified of surgery and doesn’t want it and besides that has a heath issue that makes anaesthetic extra dangerous for her . It seems insulting and scary that she would even consider dangerous surgery because of what he wants to look at . She is only 26.
Any advice from people who’s partners have responded in this way or what you would do