Poor mental health and relationships

[plessuregirle]

I am in a fairly new relationship. He's lovely, we are very good together, I think about him a lot and I'm lucky to have found him. I have poor mental health though and struggle at times where I withdraw a bit and don't want to be around anyone. I'm talking it through with my counsellor who says it's OK to feel like this and to be in a relationship, but I struggle to even respond to messages when I feel this way. It doesn't help that my new partner is a medical professional (GP) and I've hidden how bad my mental health can get to an extend (I know, I should be honest). I am scared it will scare him away. How do you work relationships when you have poor mental health? I'm having a low week and struggling.

Anyone?

Sit down and talk to him. Give him a chance to understand.

You don't want to scare him off? Do you want to build a relationship with someone who doesn't have the opportunity to understand everything that is going on?

I would send him a message and be honest, say you are just telling him as sometimes when you have a bad day, you just want to switch off from everything. It doesn't mean you need his help, doesn't mean you don't want to engage or continue things, it just means you need a little time.
I'm sure he will be very understanding x

Do you know what? It'll be a good test to see how he is when it comes to mental health. I've been with some really understanding men and some not so understanding men. Guess which relationships didn't last long? In a weird way, it helps sift through those who lack empathy.