Relationship break up

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I have been with my wife of nearly 8 years and she has recently finished our relationship. We still live together and a really good together , also at the moment in time and have just had to self isolate together. I really don't feel like it's the end of our relationship but not sure if I should continue to fight for us ? There is no massive reason for our break up no affairs or cheating .

What should I do ?

What was the reason for the breakup. Does she seem like she wants to fight for your relationship?

@Spongebob88

What was the reason for the breakup. Does she seem like she wants to fight for your relationship?

I haven't been give a reason other then she feels like she's lost her self . Still has feelings for me and cares about me

I get what’s she’s saying.

You need to seriously look at the dynamics of the relationship.

Do you have children? Does she do the over whelming majority of child care.

Does she do over whelming majority of house work?

Does she have time to see her friends/relax /social/life?

If you can honestly hand on heart say it’s 50/50 to all these start looking at

Is she in love with you?
Does she still find you attractive?
Could she be seeing some one else?
Has she just had enough and want to be on her own?

We don't have children ,
We share the house work fairly as we both work long shifts.

She says she still loves me very much but not sure how she feels now about us . When I ask I never get clear answers and she gets sad when the thought of me going for ever .

I am still living with her as we both own the house . It feels like normal but with no affection.
I just don't know if to fight for us or if she's given up on us ?

Maybe she’s not attracted to you anymore.

Horrible but it does happen

Coldwinds That's a horrible thing to say!

OP Have things changed between you both recently?

Do you both really need to work long hours!?

@RLABC

Coldwinds That's a horrible thing to say!

OP Have things changed between you both recently?

It happens though. I went off my ex’s so I finished with them.

When was the last time she initiated sex OP?

We both do a job that requires us to work long days .

That's the thing nothings changed we still get along with each other ect and was doing stuff together a few days before the break up . Even when we was isolated it felt right and good ?

When I finished with partners “out of the blue” in the past but still cared for them very much, it was because I’d stopped fancying them somewhere along the line and had put them back in the friend zone. I wouldn’t say it like that, I would say I need space or something. Listen to her if she’s telling you she wants out. Sorry OP - it may be tough now but you’ll be fine without her.

@Mallemo

When I finished with partners “out of the blue” in the past but still cared for them very much, it was because I’d stopped fancying them somewhere along the line and had put them back in the friend zone. I wouldn’t say it like that, I would say I need space or something. Listen to her if she’s telling you she wants out. Sorry OP - it may be tough now but you’ll be fine without her.

Is there no chance of getting this back ? I feel there's still some attraction there We are still living together due to the current situation which I can't decide if it's a blessing or a curse as can't give space to think ect

I think it depends on the couple and it comes down to how she feels really, impossible for us to know. You’ll have to give her as much space as you can and respect what she says. If you really want to give things another go, space and no pressure is the way to go (that may not work if she doesn’t want it to though, she has to want to).