There have been 2 guys i've dated, one last year and one the year before.
Both of them started taking days to reply, then I later found out it was because they had met someone else, and I was just being strung along until it was 'official' with the new girls.
Another guy was 'too busy' to meet me for a month, even for a bloody hour, when he lived 1.5 miles away ! When I called him out on it I was told that I was being really unreasonable.
He then took me on a 'date' which despite me paying for, kept calling me a cheapskate.
Another guy I had had 5 dates with. Once he had what he wanted he suddenly lost interest, and stood me up in a pub on Xmas eve !
My ex from several years ago was abusive for years and cheated on me/left me for this girl.
I've done therapy but think I need to continue. I had zero boundaries, and even though I called out all these men, I was often gaslighted and made to feel like I was in the wrong.
I deserve the best and I need to keep to my standards. I just have a hard time believing that not all men are like this. It's like i'm expecting all men to do this at some point, even though the aforementioned are creeps and slimeballs.
I know a lot of us have been through stuff like this, and I wouldn't go back to any of those losers if you paid me, but it's knocked my confidence.