To think he's not interested?

[Nicetomichu]

First date and I messaged to say thanks.

Had a slightly awkward hug when we parted (I was awkward and didnt hug him properly) and he said we should do something again soon. Also said good luck with some work things I am doing.

I messaged with a thank you text / saying was nice to meet him and got this back "Cool! Yeah was fun. I got on the slow train by accident..."

Not interested?

I’d reply v casually along lines of .... oh no, how long did it take you to get home?

Yeah I said something along those lines and he replied - not great right?

I think we are all out of habit with hugging anyone these days, I wouldn't worry too much about the awkwardness... . Maybe he told you he got on the slow train to let you know he could text/chat for a while because he had time? I've done similar before? Or was his after he got home? Either way, it's not a bad text and I don't think it means he's not interested.

Did you really like him?

What did he reply?

I said, "nightmare, super slow?" Him, "not exactly lightning"

Getting a not interested vibe. I liked him but unsure what he thought. He did suggest meeting again but that may well have been politeness

I laughed at the "not exactly lightning", not sure why though, sounds a little sarcastic.... He might just be annoyed at himself for not getting the express. I think it could easily go either way.

If he has already said he would like to do it again he probably doesn't feel the need to repeat that again by text message, so is just trying to make small talk?

Not many people would offer a second date if not interested, I wouldn't of thought.. let him contact you next, play it a bit cool as overly keen can be off putting, maybe that's why he's acting in this way.

I think you are slightly beyond the ' healthy dose of pessimism' because you've been moved to post about it. It really is too soon to tell. Wonder why the hug was awkward from your POV? Were you expecting a kiss, but got a hug, or did your eyes never meet - ie, no chemistry?

Had a date, that I enjoyed, with a slightly awkward hug/ tap on shoulders. Ordinarily, I may have gone for more, but covid restrictions, and maybe him being more reserved, and my being unsure about his flaky communication at the start held me back.
On balance, I think we quite liked some aspects of each other but from my pov, he would not be a great fit in my life.

Doesn't sound interested, but it's a modern man so impossible to tell. The initial response sounds so flippant and casual, it seems disinterested.

Out of interest, how old is he? I'm hoping you're going to say very early thirties at most, what with the "Cool yeah was fun" response.

I don't get the uninterested vibe.

OP you can't make any assumptions as you don't really know him

Thanks all. I messed up a little as we ended up meeting very late (my fault) and could only spend an hour together due to curfew. Not sure whether to suggest another meeting (I never do this) as dont feel like I was my best self and was a bit all over the place. Or just wait for him to message/not message?

I think you're in risk of coming across as far too keen and scaring him off with this amount of texting following a short first date.

Let him, and you, chill. Maybe contact again in a week or so if he hasn't got in touch?

Is this constant texting a thing of late?