HELP me, I need advice and quickly

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Last week I caught sight of a piece of paper in my boyfs pocket and suspeected it might be a girls phone number - I asked him about it but obviously he denied it as he snatched it off me!!. Well, I have just found the bit of paper and it has girls name, phone number and a 'x' on it.
He is due home from work in 15 minutes and I do not know how to approach it. - I am fuming!

By the way, I am 8 months pregnant with his baby!!!

Phone the number - get as many details as you can. Then dont tell him you have done it. If you can replace the paper with the number on it (changed if possible). If it is inoccent you wont hear about it agian as people will understand. if not then he will get an earfull from him and assume you have found the number and rung it - to which you would be able to deny it anyway.

You have nothing to lose and the only fear is that you will be right (which many of us here can undrstand).

Or as someone else said give us the number to ring.

Good luck though and stay strong.

can i just add that if he works with this girl wouldnt he have the time to actually put her number in his phone instead of it being written on a piece of paper????

of course he is making you out to be the 'baddie' in all this - arent these typical signs girls?!!!!

If it was inoccent he would be very upset that you had got the wrong end of the stick and would be doing everything to put your mind at rest - it seems he is paniced and is not thinking about you but his own skin at the moment.

Phone the number and then let us all support you - whether that is you just feeling silly or your worst fear we are here for you.

I have the bit of paper as I found it on the bedroom floor - I don't think he would have the guts to ask me for it back. Don't know if I can bring myself to call it cause I am really bad at that sort of thing
He goes back to work in an hour for the night so i will be left to wind myself up about it before being able to have it out with him properly.

ring it, seriously u need to know

Perhaps i could call it and ask if it is Jenny from the hairdressers, she should either say yes or no. What do i say if she says Yes???

Do you know jenny very well or is she the nightmare?!!

If you know her - say - thanks i thought it was but just wanted to check that it was your number.

If she is the one you are fearing then at least you will know and can just say ok that explains a lot and leave it at that - he will then have to wonder what you 'know'

Knowledge is power in any situation.

If the person says no then just say sorry wrong number. Let her be the one to worry for a while - not you.

Good luck you can do it.

you need to ring it, there is no point in even speaking to him about it because you know he is feeding you bullshit.

You need to know when I first found out - there was many alls to one no on H phone bill (and hundreds of texts) I phoned it straight away and asked her who the fuck she was and did she know he was married with a small child...she put the phone straight down but that told me plenty and fianlly I knew it wasn't me going mad - do you really care what he or she thinks ....will it make a difference ...I think you need an answer one way or another...and from bitter experience of many here you won't get it from him...sorry his behaviour of turning it on you is very suspicious - he should be worried about you especially at 8 months pregnant

Yes must not tell him you are phoning it - otherwise they will get their story together.

Knowing will be so much better than this at least.

well, we have had a big row now. He blames me for being an over emotional hormonal wreck due to being pregnant and I told him he was a lying twat and I never believe a word he said.
He said he had the number cause the girl was looking for work at his place or some such bollocks.
Anyway I am not sure it is important anymore. The important thing now is - what do I do now?? Is it simply a case of leaving, I am about to have his baby. I would have nowhere to live. Or do we ignore it an carry on.
I don't think I am ever going to resolve this particular issue. I have had my suspicions about him in the past and never resolved that and it does haunt me a bit.

Anyone got any advice?

I think all of us on here (whether anything happened/would happen or)...would agree it really is not as simple as just leaving ..and there are many different ways it can end - that truly depends on you your relationship what you want and what makes you happy....afraid thats not useful advice though... I would suggest of you can try and get him to RELATE it helps to have a 3rd person there when you talk and sometimes helps to resolve things for you in your mind...it is crao feeling like this when you are pg (I know am 30 weeks)....and hormones all over the place don't help...

so plan is to let it lie for now and wait and see how it goes. To be honest I, sadly, don't think the relationship has a future butI don't want to make a hasty hormonal decison I may regret later.
My situ right now means leaving would be really hard as I am not working, have only just moved to area and don't know anyone, we share a rented flat and baby is coming in 3 weeks plus dd has had massive upheaval (can't spell today)
It is all so SHIT. Feeling really pissed off!