Moving on

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Partner of 8 years started being suspicious with her phone a month ago said she was messaging a girl from work but they are just friends. Phone was going all weekend, I watched her deleting messages. After a few days she admitted she fancied her and wanted more so she finished it with me. She stayed living in the same house but spent most nights away then moved her stuff out on Saturday. Now she messages me saying she hasn't been happy for ages and was just plodding along. So I'm here with heartbroken ds 11 from previous relationship trying to mend our broken hearts while she gets on merrily with her life. When does this get easier because every day is a struggle to get through.

Just know that it will get easier but it will take a while, and you'll fluctuate, having days where you start to feel a bit better, followed by days that are worse.
Think of it as a marathon and get into training. Small steps. Set yourself a goal. What interests you?

Ah I’m sorry OP, that’s so hard 💐. It really is one day or even one hour at a time, it will ebb and flow, but only time heals. I found the ‘one month for every year of the relationship’ measure was absolutely spot on: 30 months after ditching XH after our 30 year relationship, I was fully back in the game! 😊 Your DS will likely recover quicker, being young, but I’m not sure about that as my DC we’re adults when it ended. Good luck