Lying on the first date ?

[pumpkinpie2020]

Been talking to a guy for a while through text and today was our first date we went a walk in the park with my dog he told me he went to a pet shop today to buy my dog a toy but the shop was closed I thought that was really sweet when I told my friend she thinks he's lying because what pet shops are closed on a Tuesday ?

He said a kind thing. People say all kinds of shite on a first date to make an impression. It's not like he said he won the Nobel prize is it.

Could be an independent business and was closed. Could be closed due to whatever covid restrictions. Assumptions are the mother of all fuck ups, however. By all means do your own due diligence. Take your pick.

Well if he's lying about something silly what else would he lie about I googled thd pet shops in his area and none said they were closed

Its silly alright but not important.

Maybe it was closed but didn’t advertise it was closed? Maybe they were sick or had a bereavement or something. Lots of local
Places here have changed what they’re doing since Covid and how they work and staffing. DH and I have been to a couple of places over the last few months only to find them closed with no explanation. I think you’re overthinking it, don’t dwell on it.

Are you in Wales?

Nope not in Wales

Lots of places do half day closing on tuesdays or wednesdays

At least you’ve managed to get a date. Living in tier 3 it’s hard for me! And I really don’t think he’d lie about a dog toy. Just go with the flow and don’t over think things

Closed for lunch?

Maybe it was a tiny store and the owner had gone out for lunch or closed for a funeral. Maybe they'd run out of pets and had to shut.

Send him a link to dog toys on Amazon, call his bluff!

Hope the guy is reading this - run!!!

@cheesemongery

Hope the guy is reading this - run!!!

Yup

Nothing is normal at the moment, shops close, people isolate.
It's a first date, maybe he told a white lie maybe he didn't. If you overthink this it's going to be very painful.
Are there other concerns?

My local pet school is closed yet their website says they’re open.

You’re overthinking this .

He probably made it up to be nice . That did, I nearly took a flask of coffee on a first date recently, but didn't have an vegan friendly milk, (even though I usually kept some in the house) and he was vegan. I told him that I had thought about it because I was trying to be considerate and he gave me a low level hard time because he doesn't drink his coffee with milk and said I should have brought it anyway. I do however, so I wasn't going to bring milk separately as well as coffee! He implied I was making it up. My flask was still on the work surface at home. It really put me off that he didn't see the gesture for what it was and was a bit rude about it (we just bought coffees for what it's worth). I am no longer seeing him. The fact that you've googled this, spoken to a friend and started this thread all suggest he won't be seeing you for much longer either.

I don't know about this. I can see what other people are saying about strange times and all that but I have a zero tolerance on lying and lying over something as trivial as this would make me wonder how often banal, meaningless 'white' lies were going to fall out of his mouth.

Maybe he was trying to be nice. But how many other things would he lie about to be 'nice'?

If it's such an unimportant thing, why lie about it? Why bring it up at all? Why not just wait until the next date and buy something for then? I wouldnt appreciate someone lying to impress me either.

Because I can guarantee that if you were posting in 6 months time about discovering more lies, the same people who are excusing it now would be saying, "He lied to you on the first date. Your mistake was carrying on after that."

So, it's up to you but it would be a first strike for me at the very least.

I think it's wise to be cautious.

surlycurly

Tbf, the red flags there were him giving you a hard time and being rude to you about it.

Well if he is a serial liar you have found out now and can avoid meeting him in future.

That would put me off completely but I’d carry on for the fun of it.
See what he comes up with next, my bullsitometet would be on high alert.
Could be fun & quite entertaining going along with his crap for a while.

Unless you know exactly what time he went to the shop, and know for a fact that the shop was open then, you don’t know for sure that it’s a lie. How big is the shop? As PPs have said, maybe someone was off ill of having to isolate. If it’s the kind of place with only one staff member at a time they had popped out to the post office or to the toilet and locked the door for a few minutes.
But unless you liked the guy, you don’t have to see him again anyway. If this has planted a seed of doubt, just don’t see him anymore.

I personally would see it as a red flag, and it’s possible that that’s why he’s single !

I don't understand how some of you think am being rude I said to him that was really sweet and don't him not to worry i thought it was so sweet I told my friend for her then to think that he's lying abt this ! I haven't pulled him up or spoke to him about it again ! But I am a very honest person I don't see the point in small lies my ex would lie about stupid stuff so I don't want another relationship like that again
Maybe the pet shop was closed I'll see how things go he is a very nice guy

He might have gone and they weren't open yet? Independent pet shops have varied opening hours, and some close on a weekday rather than weekends which are busier.