My ex-boyfriend and I have been together for over 10 years. He is from New Zealand and I am from Spain and we have been living in the UK for the past 6 years.
He has broken up with me 2 months ago because he wants to move back to his country, but he doesn’t think I will be happy there. We are in good terms and I have temporarily moved back to Spain.
At the beginning of our relationship, we lived in New Zealand for 3 years. It was difficult for me to settle there as I couldn’t secure a ‘proper’ job, had stopped studying and felt like I failed. We then decided to go back to the UK for 2 years so that I could go back to study and be closer to my family. It has been now 6 years, in the mean time I have finished studying and secured a good job.
Our plan was always to move back to NZ and settle there. A few months ago, we discussed our future plans and decided to have kids in the UK and stay for 2-3 years so I could be close to my family and then back to NZ. This was his suggestion and he seemed happy (Although a bit surprised he wanted to stay another 3years).
A few months after that, he has told me that we will never be happy in the same place and that he wants the best for both of us. He has said that if I came with him things will never be equal as I will always have to sacrifice, and that he does not want to take me away.
I have lived most of my adult life aboard, which I enjoy and have never doubted about moving back to NZ with him.
He says he does not want to travel anymore and want simple things. I think he is very homesick and does not wants to consider trying us over there. How can I try to convince him to give it a chance?