How do you deal with character assassinations from ex

[HeyChubbee]

He annoyed me at drop off, I was I would say ‘direct’ with my comments to him.

Then came the text character assassination how dare I speak to him like that, I’m embarrassing and more. Would not answer his phone to actually talk about it.

I’m annoyed that he’s annoyed me all evening now. Argh.

goisey I find it quite comforting to know I’m not alone in the experience (although sorry that other women had such tedious hassle to put up with too)

My game used to be replying with as little words, the shorter the word the better if I ever had to. I found 'ok' eventually shortened to 'k' (which annoyed him even more) would suffice in most circumstances.

With this kind of thing, I always approach it with a rule not to answer anything that isn't a direct, relevant question. And if there is a direct, relevant question, answer it with a bit of Grey Rock.

His rant is unlikely to be anything other than him getting off his chest how awful he thinks you are. You don't need to have any input into that. At the most, state your truth once if you feel it's important enough, but remember he won't accept it and will use it as an avenue to argue back so there's no real point. You can't change his point of view about how dreadful he thinks you are and you're under no obligation to.

So pick through his rant if you want to, look for the relevant direct questions (by relevant I mean something like 'when am I going to see my child again' rather than something like 'why are you so fucked up and awful') answer those ones ONCE in a really bland, boring, factual way and entirely ignore the rest.

Try a laughing emoji.

Try responding with the thumbs up icon

What do you mean by “direct”?

@DelilahDingleberry are you trying to say that I must have said something to him that was worthy of a text message onslaught afterwards?

As a pp has said. Only reply if it's a relevant direct question. If it's a rant with no question at the end re the dc or divorce then simply don't answer. Or an 'ok' if you're feeling generous

Someone on here said it was like watching a tiny bull raging in a tiny pen. So true.

That's utter genius.

I'm loving the bingo board, BTW.

@heychubbee No, that’s why I asked a question rather than making a statement.