Would you continue in this ?

[Whatkatiedid389]

If a guy you had been seeing for a bit asked you your financial history. Then asking what amount the loan was and what purpose it was for. Then said the fact that you have an overdraft 'scares' him.
Loads of people have them and i've paid a lot of it off.
None of his business at all really is it, and he's hardly rolling in money himself so who is he to judge ?
Told him and he apologised.

Stop making excuses for him!!!! Every time he acts like a dick you have a good reason why it's not that bad - but it is!!!

Honestly you need to just dump him. Tell him you're not feeling it in the bedroom. Insecure men are very very problematic as they use their insecurities against you. You think maybe you can fix him and make him feel better but trust me he will hurt you very very badly if you stay.

I think he’s probably just trying to find out if your financial values match up, It’s fairly important to figure out early on I think. He shouldn’t judge you for it though but maybe that was your own insecurities making you feel judged about it?

Talking about an ex constantly isn’t ok though and shows that’s he’s probably not over her completely. But we all have a past and even to this day I still sometimes reference things to about experiences with my ex to DP as that was a part of my life and I don’t have a problem with him doing the same.

Dump him

You need to walk away from this one. He'll only bring you misery.

He sounds awful!

'Hot girls' was enough for me 🤢
He sounds grim, dump him.

He's a twat. Bin!

Soooo many red flags here!!! Run while you still can

@Whatkatiedid389

Also once whilst we were in a café he grabbed my phone off me because he thought I was texting someone else, which I wasn't and wouldn't.

Ouch. That's really bad. Big red flag.

Run. Fast.

Just how bad would a man have to be for you to dump him?

This one has been a loser right from the start - your bar needs to raise a lot higher.

Good lord.
Only if I was madly desperate and he was the only man on the planet.
And I needed a kidney and we were a match.

I'm really sorry you had this experience. Was he lovely to start with? Did you see him as in need of guidance?

Being lovebombed at the start or feeling like you can rescue someone isn't a good sign that it is going to be a stable balanced relationship.

You are realising all the signs are there, this guy will ground your self esteem down. Just end it and say this isn't what you want. Loads more mature men out there.

An ex once asked a wierd question, when questioned he said I just thought it'd be interesting. Turned out to be quite a private guy himself with some questionable dealings! I know he had trust issues but decency is not optional.

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?.

What do you get out of this relationship?.

He targeted you OP and deliberately so. Your boundaries need urgent raising upwards. Poor boundaries amongst other things are extremely attractive to abusers like this individual. Is this man all you think you deserve from a relationship?.

Sounds like he is sussing out how you can support him with your money.
Dump dump dump.

Attila. You always say exactly same thing. Do you cut and paste from something?

OP I mean this kindly, you need to not be such a doormat with guys like this. Grabbing your phone off you?? Judging your finances, talking about other women, calling you 'mate'??

Please dump him today, seriously. There are a million red flags here.

He sounds worth with every update, OP, and we thought you should dump him at the beginning.

Has he asked to move in with you. Sounds like a cocklodger in the making.

You can stop with the constant stream of posts describing what an absolute steaming arse this man is now, you know

Dump him as asap and block him.

I went out with someone who just made these "little" jibes, but they add up in the end and get you down. It isn't accidental. People who put you down and make you feel crap are usually pretty insecure. They turn it back on you to try to mask their own insecurities. I think once you've started to recognise someone for who they are, it's hard to unsee it. To be fair, he sounds like a knob.

Controlling cocklodger in the making right there.

Get rid. Work on your self esteem and boundaries.