Just had a row with my mum over her interfering.

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Just endured a stressful day out with my mum who to be honest is not good company. She just moans about everything non-stop, from other drievrs to how many road signs there are, etc. I try and let it wash over me.

Half way through the day andd dd is dancing around a bit excitedly and my mum says she needs a firm spanking. I ignore.

Then she comes back to mine for tea (invited herself). So table is set for three and my laptop is shut down but on the far end of the table. Afetr tea dd decides to jump on the unused chair at the far end of the table and misses and slides off, starts crying. My mum gives me a big lecture on how unsafe it is to have the laptop there as it could have fallen on top of her and it should be moved, etc. DD is nearly 7, not a toddler. So I asked her if she could stop telling me what to do in my own house.

She went ballistic, screaming at the top of her voice at me and has stormed off. Was I wrong to say that to her? DH (who wasn't there) reckoned I shold have slung her out the house ebfore she stormed out (but he hates her anway). Am feeling bad now.

Good Lord you were a model child, I would have opened the door before that and placed her on the other side of it.

Do not call her, wait for her to call and in the interim make notes about how you felt, undermined in your own home etc.,

It sounds as if you were unbelievably patient. I don't think you were wrong to say that at all, you were very restrained imo.

Hope you feel better soon

Your DH sounds about right.

"She went ballistic, screaming at the top of her voice at me and has stormed off." in front of your hildren?
She is in thw rong, not you and she should apologise.

It is so weird how you can be made to feel like a child again with your parents - maybe parents do it without realising and they just fall into that role of the reprimanding parent - a bit heavy here but does anyone on MN here, with grown up daughters with their own children, do this also because I've heard of this before.

My Mum does this and it makes me want to throttle her but it also makes me want to say,

'I am 36 years old. How would you have felt if your mother had spoken to you the way you speak to me!!'

Really, sometimes I could throttle her!

My mum can be an utter nob like this sometimes...but she is the best mum in the world at others.

I think you were in the right to do what you did. Get the crazy woman out of YOUR home; especially when your little girl is witness to it all.

Do you think your mum will be big enough to get in touch with you after this or will she expect you to do it?

It makes me feel quite sad to hear that her response to her granddaughter being excited and jumping about is to say she needs SPANKING.

I have no practical advice other than to suggest you try to keep her at arm's length, but I'm very sorry you have to put up with this.

She rang up shortly after I posted just to say she'd found one of dd's toys in her car. No apology, it'll never be mentioned if her past track record is anything to go by. And of course she will think she's totally right and that I'm i nthe wrong to say that to her. Makes me bad - she is bonkers.

Thanks. I feel better now I've calmed down.

I think its the way she says stuff sometimes. My aunt once said something to be about how she thought dd should have some slippers as she kept skidding over on the lino at her house (we don't have lino). I was fine about that and thought she had a good point and it never crossed my mind to think she was criticising me. Then a few days later she rang up to say sorry if she'd been out of order mentioning it. Bless her.

Why don't you ask her if she's going to apologise for being so foul to you particularly in your own home?

I get very tired of people thinking they can do what they like in my own home.