Therapy/counselling

[Anyone9767]

I have recently found out my husband has been talking to people online... For a long time, a lot.

He has said he will seek counselling and has proactively pursued it.

Has anyone been through this? Did therapy help? I don't know if I should speak to someone too?

Anyone that wants to tell me I am an idiot and LTB... Feel free.

Writing that sums it al up... I feel irrelevant. Ugh. I have spent the past week feeling completely nauseated, i can't eat, sleep. I feel like I have been ounched in stomach. The wind has been knocked out of me.

What am i doing.

Please reconcider what a "good dad" is.
A "good dad" doesn't make choices that puts the mother of his children in a position where she is unable to function properly for weeks in end, as you describe OP. Putting his children's primary carer in this position can't not adversely affect the care she gives his children.
Having a shit childhood is not an acceptable excuse, he could also have chosen to act in a way that wouldn't harm his family.
It's never as straightforward as just ltb unfortunately.

I agree. I don't know what i am doing here in the same house as him.

I have just told him he has ruined my life.

It under cuts everything... Was he ever happy and in the moment, or did he just want to be elsewhere.

He has a therapy session booked on Wednesday.

I feel like I am hollow on the inside.

Thought i would give an update, just so I can write some stuff down.

Both has seperate therapy sessions. I was asked some tough questions - do I love him? Do I want it to work.

I thought I loved him, now I feel Like I dont know him. It is very hard. Other than this issue, he has been a brilliant friend, husband, dad. I feel like whatever happens i lose... If i stay there is no trust, and that will just lead to frustration, anger and resentment. If we split I will miss the positive sides of him that until just over a few weeks ago made me ridiculously happy. The kids would suffer- he is a very proactive and involved dad.

I feel literally heartbroken.

I hope everyone on here struggling with these awful issues finds clarity and peace.