What happened?!

[bellami]

Hi there

I received an Instagram follow from a man a few weeks ago who messaged me and we began chatting etc. Roll on to yesterday when he asked to meet and so we went a walk and he was so complimentary, said he looked forward to our second date and generally seemed very into me..

He left late-ish at night and when he got home sent me a strange message that just said "sorry I can't speak I'll wake my parents" i didnt see it until an hour after he sent it and at this point he had blocked me on all platforms...

Is this a thing? I'm struggling to understand

Don’t even try to understand. That way madness lies. Strike him off the list and move on. Don’t spend a single second torturing yourself over the odd behaviour of men you meet online.

@Smallsteps88

Don’t even try to understand. That way madness lies. Strike him off the list and move on. Don’t spend a single second torturing yourself over the odd behaviour of men you meet online.

Wise words

Don’t even try to understand

Seconded. You're not emotionally invested, and you don't want to be with someone who baffles you immediately after you meet them. Just move on and forget. And yes, stuff like this is a 'thing'.

It's not you!

Be prepared for him popping back up with some ridiculous story in the next few months.

Don't try and decipher what went on, he is just weird and rude and there is no point trying to figure it out when his moral compass is so different from yours.

Did you sleep together? Just that you said he left late-ish after saying you went for a walk?? If that’s the case he was probably just ghosting you after getting what he wanted

Married.

So weird, don’t take it personally at all. He clearly has communication issues or an ongoing situation... thank god this happened before you invested more time and feelings into it

Bullet dodged as far as I'm concerned.

He sent that to you by mistake, then panicked and blocked you.

Most likely he’s married.

possibly he's not single, and girlfriend / wife saw his message to you and then she blocked you or made him block you.

I think married too.

" Sorry i can't speak i'll wake my wife "
more like ...

The message was intended for another woman to whom it would have made sense.

He panicked when he sent it to you and then blocked you.

In future, do not he flattered by complete strangers who follow and then message you via instagram. Those are men to he blocked - not engaged with.

You are making the fundamental error of assuming he is a nice person. With OLD if you assume everyone is deeply deeply flawed and weird as fuck, it will all make more sense and you will be able to protect your physical and mental health much more easily.

Change your standpoint at the outset.

Be covid safe.

Only go for a walk with a stranger where at least forty people can see you 100% of the time. People meet in bars and cafes for a reason.

He has accidentally sent u a message that was intended for another woman.. panicked and blocked u, or he’s married

Don't take it personally. This year I've met 2 men online. The first we met in January and he deleted his Twitter 2 days later. Then he came back 4 weeks later said how sorry he was. I gave him another chance, more fool me . We met again in March, before lockdown and he ghosted me again several weeks later. A few weeks ago he sent me a message on twitter one night. 6 months after the last time he ghosted saying it's me, I want to explain everything. Then blocked me. I started another account because I wasn't having him have the last word again, and I said it's been 6 months, you owe me nothing. I was quite happy he did tbh because looking through his regular twitter account made me realize what a bell end he is.
Then in August got talking to someone, he was pretty full on phoning texting trying to facetime. We met a few weeks later. He was working away alot living on the road, tells me he's divorced but now he's at home and should have more time he only phones when he's driving. Last night he phoned after visiting his dad and said right love I'm just pulling up to my house I will text in a bit. On Friday he was on the phone to me for an hour and a half driving home then as he pulled up said the same. Also he says he's going to bed early or I fell asleep so I'm off to bed now. At 8pm? The texts are very few at the weekends. I'm starting to suspect there is a woman at home.

Thank you for all your responses!.

To answer the question no we didn't sleep together we managed to get some food and sat in his car to eat and that's about as exciting as it got😂

You're all right ill strike this one off and forget about it. Thank u, next 😂

Good call. Also you don't have to answer calls or text messages. It's your phone. You can do with it whatever you like.

Remember the old MN maxim. It's an invitation not a summons.

Oh no, don't get in peoples cars OP.

I was that men can just follow someone on Instagram these days to get a date but you got in his car too?

Don't do that!

I don’t get the Instagram thing either I didn’t realise it was a dating site?? he is most likely not single I think the fact you met on insta and not an actual dating site is probably cos he can’t use them in case he is spotted so uses Instagram to meet women!

I would be highly suspect if someone random contacting you on Instagram! Even my 14yr old DD knows not to engage and to block! 🥴