I'm so lonely

[whenoneoneknows]

Married. Partner ASD. He asks me nothing about my thoughts/day/life. He's not interested. I'm so very lonely.

Hi there. I have ASD if it helps. My partner always knows that he's loved however it did take me a while to fully become that person, sometimes I was very dismissive. Have you tried speaking to him about how you feel? I know a lot of the time a I spend so much time thinking that I forget about the world around me.

I think most people underestimate the loneliness and pain that comes from lack of emotional connection. It’s soul destroying! The point of any ‘relation’ship is to relate to each other and without the relating even a friendship wouldn't last let alone a fulfilling romantic relationship.

It’s ok to leave if it isn’t making you happy OP.

What was he like before you married him?

Have you explained this to him? Don’t let this resentment build up. Talk, explain what his lack of interest is doing to you, explain what steps he can take to resolve this and explain the consequences if he doesn’t. He’s not a child but if he has ASD he is wired differently and as you will know, when it comes to these areas, ASD can be a real stumbling block. He could just be a thoughtless arse with ASD or he could be someone who loves you who has ASD which can sometimes lead him to behave in a thoughtless way. Make sure you know which one it is! (speaking as someone whose family is full of people with ASD).