Married 5y, together 7. We have 3yo son.
I have health issues and suffering basically 0 sex drive, no libido. Causes a lot of disagreement as DH has high sex drive. We went through a rough patch about 4 months ago, decided to structure intimate time to just on weekends, purely because we could never read eachothers moods and both take rejection badly. Was working nicely up until a few weeks ago.
Caught DH reading my old Mumsnet posts about the mismatched sex drive issue. In one old post I stated that I was seriously considering leaving him (I was, and I told him this at the time) confronted him about this, told him it was unacceptable and I needed an explanation. He blows up at me and accuses me of "airing our dirty laundry on the internet" and speaking badly of him to strangers... Yes, that's what anonymous forums are for.
Basically he never apologised and I refused to apologise for seeking/advice comfort online anonymously.
Now, he is back to pestering for sex a lot, huffing if he doesn't get it and then spitefully rejecting me on the odd occasion I try to initiate it (maybe once every 2 weeks) so we are at a weird stalemate and I don't know what to do.
I can't help but feel DH is being controlling here, but I would be happy to be told I'm wrong.