Setting boundaries

[Claire926]

There is a man in my life who is toxic. He always contacts me wanting sympathy all of the time. His messages are very negative and he is self centered. I'm not sure why he confides in me, why does he not confide in the women on Plenty of Fish dating site he searches for if they are so wonderful. I have a some personal issues going on and don't need this user. I can't believe I even wanted to date this loser. I have recognised that being an empath I am too much of a people pleaser and need to put boundaries in place but don't know how to do this. I need to protect myself as my mental health is being affected.

Block him
Delete his number

Ask yourself why you're still in contact at all -

• you wanted to date him at one point but that hasn't happened
• he's negative and doesn't bring you anything positive in your interaction
• it sounds like he's well-aware that you fancied him and takes pleasure in rubbing your nose in him dating other people?

The boundary here needs to be a stop to contact.

He's no friend to you, he's using you as an ego-boost and emotional crutch - there's no reciprocity and the whole thing is just a drain and pain for you.

Can you block him? Have you met him?

Block and forget about him. It's really not hard.

@notsurewhattodo22

Can you block him? Have you met him?

Unfortunately I have met any many times.

First reply had it - block and delete.

Boundaries are not controls that you try to place upon another person. They are a definition of what you will and won't tolerate. The only person who has to respect your boundaries is you. Stop tolerating him.

If he was someone you liked who had overstepped the mark, then a conversation explaining how he had overstepped would be a good starting point, and you could then see how he responded to that conversation. But you seem to despise him, so that's really not necessary

You don't need to apply labels like 'empath' to yourself to make it more palatable to yourself or to absolve yourself of responsibility.

He is a user; you don't have boundaries.

Just block and delete him. He's only treating you like this because our letting him.

www.bustle.com/wellness/53760-9-breakup-texts-that-will-help-you-end-any-type-of-relationship-so-you-can-stop

Um block him?
Block, change your number and if harasses you call the police.