Friend's mega long text messages.. WWYD?

[Maxine3477]

OK so I love my friend to bits, and this post isn't about her as a person but more about the length of the text or WhatsApp messages she sends me. They're like essays! Even if it's just about something simple like arranging to meet or asking how are you, she writes in such a long, flowery way. I work long hours and have a lot on my plate so don't really have time or energy to write back as much as she writes. My replies must seem very short, straight to the point in comparison to hers. Anyone find it a chore to reply to really long messages?

Yes! Just get to the point.

Yes I thought the point of messaging was to be concise!

Write a few witty one liners when you get the chance. I write long texts ( not essays though) but I certainly don't expect anyone to reciprocate in kind and I would be sad if I thought they felt they had too. .. I'm finding that more people have very different texting styles but I think it's important to do what you're comfortable with, if the friendship is strong, it will survive and evolve. You might find out she only sends long messages because she feels she had to. Why don't you call once a week? Tell her you hate texting.

Don't let it worry you - only write what you need or want to.

It doesn't sound like there's a lot of content - mostly verbiage? In which case, respond to the meat of it as you have been.

If it's a problem to her, then I'd have thought she'd have complained by now? I would assume she's ok with the way you communicate up until the point she says she isn't.

My oldest and dearest friend is like this, back in ye olden days she used to write epic letters too However I prefer chatting to messaging so our messages are now fairly brief arranging a What's up wine and natter sesh.

On the other hand I have a very dear friend who no matter what I ask answers in one or two word responses and it drives me mad that she can't open up/ say more. It just shuts down the conversation so much I withdraw. Basically you can't win.

Myself (autistic) and many female autistics I'm friends with or speak to online, send long walls of text. It's really hard for us to weed out important info from non important info. And we tend to go heavy on descriptions because it's really important to us that the other person gets what we are saying.

I always make sure I tell people that I don't expect replies urgently etc. Also, I'm not constantly on my phone so I might be responding to several received messages in one go. Then disappearing for hours.

The other half of my neurodivergent friends rapid fire a series of very short messages.

I know it can be irritating. But it's quite hard to not be the way we are.

I can send short messages, I can send long messages. Depends on what I have to say and I prefer not to send multiple short sentences

Be grateful you're getting any messages. Life could be Alot worse

Unless she has complained that your messages are too short, why not just reply the way you want and not worry about it. Maybe she doesn't see it as a problem.