Separated with one year old

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I’m getting divorced after a horrible marriage. I have a one year old who is the love of my life and she is honestly one of the nicest natured babies around. I’m not even thinking about another relationship right now but just wondered if men are put off by single mothers? I know that’s a broad question and of course some are but someone made a comment to me last week “you’re so attractive and clever, shame you’re a parent or you’d be snapped up by a really great guy”. It was really upsetting and I know it’s an ignorant thing to say but just wondered if there might be some truth, even that it’s harder to meet someone as a single parent?

I'm not going to insult your intelligence by claiming that it makes no difference to anyone. It can be trickier of course. You have commitments that must always come first and yes, not everyone feels they can be a good stepparent but far far from impossible. look how many posters here have children from a previous relationship.

It’s not as easy for sure as there’s lots of men out there who don’t want a relationship with someone with children from a previous relationship but it definitely can happen. How easy it will be will also depend on how much contact your daughter has with her dad to give you free time. I split with my ex husband when my daughter was 1 and I’ve now been with someone for 3 years. I didn’t introduce my child for a long time though as I didn’t want to put any pressure on him or my child and didn’t want to rush it. They have met lots now and things are great all round.

Of course it’s not as easy as if you were single - and proactively you won’t have as much time to date, but it’s clearly not impossible.
I think it’s much harder when people have several children - there was a similar post recently by a mother of 4 children in her mid 20s. Most people said - wait till they grow up and then you may meet someone.

So - if you are going to date now - you’ll need to figure out logistics and your boundaries. As in - when and how you’ll proceed once you meet someone.
And - go have fun!

My youngest was 3 when his dad moved out. I would say dating when they are younger is easier in a way - it would be far more complex to introduce the DC to a new partner now they are older. They don't really remember my DP not being in their lives. He has no kids and he admits he expected to be with someone with much older kids than mine (we are in our 40s!). So you never know! That said for some it is a deal breaker and that is also fair enough.

No I honestly don’t think you will have a problem at all if you are looking for a mature man , fair enough some 24 year old single lad may be put off but most are absolutely not , I have 3 young children , recently seperated my youngest being only 4 months old and my eldest being 10 with autism and I’ve honestly had so many messages from guys since They’ve discovered I’m single xx