How to be exciting in a relationship

[PandoraBox89]

My relationship is great, i'd be so gutted if I lost it. I think i'm like this because it's taken me 7 years to find one like this; I have dated a few men who 'didn't know what they wanted' 'weren't ready' and whatever other excuses they wanted to pick out.
The last guy I was seeing left me suddenly for another girl and he's still looking madly in love with her over a year later.

Anyway I unexpectedly met this guy and it's just amazing. I guess i'm scared that one day he will stop loving me or will fall for someone else. I don't want it to get boring or for us to become more like friends, I always try to suggest places and things to do, as does he, and keep it interesting.
I try to tell myself that i've always gotten over past heartbreak and this would be no different surely. It's just so hard to find a relationship, well for me anyway.

I am not clingy, just have this huge anxiety about losing him and I want it to go away.
Anyone else ever felt this ?

I guess most feel this way the beginning, I do especially when you like them so much, it's take some time but hopefully you'll feel more secure the longer the relationship developes. You've learnt from previous relationships, the ones to avoid, although there is no guarantee with anyone what the future lies ahead and that is a risk you take. All you can do is enjoy being together and if you are right for each other then it should all fall into place naturally.

The worst thing you can do is try to be someone you're not because that's simply not sustainable. Just be yourself and let the relationship progress as it will. Good luck!

I've definitely felt this, even to the point of regularly rehearsing what to say if he ever splits up with me! I think you can't be someone you are not, and really if it doesn't work out for any reason, then it just wasn't meant to be. There are no guarantees and all you can do is be open hearted and be yourself.

If he makes you a better version of you just be that.

I felt similar when I went my DP, I kept overthinking things like you and waiting for things to go wrong and I think past bad relationships were influencing that for me. Now it’s almost 6 years later and I couldn’t be happier 😊

The best advice I can give is just have to be yourself and enjoy the relationship! It is a bit scary in the beginning as you get attached and develop feelings and worry what if it ends but just go with it and over time you will trust in the relationship and stop waiting for something to go wrong. Good luck and enjoy your new relationship! 😊

Thanks everyone :)