Where someone will not validate or give you ownership of anything?
It's my mum.
If I say, "I'm shattered, I've just finished nights and not sleeping well"
She'll say, "well, I've not slept all week, I toss and turn all night, I'm dead on my feet, I never sleep"and continue talking about herself.
If i say "I met up with sally and we had a lovely lunch out last week" she'll say "oh I went out for lunch last week, I had blah blah blah" and continue in great detail what she ate, then what she did when she got home etc.
She never asks me questions. Never. Never how's work?/what have you been up to? How are you?
Never.
I thought I was used to this, I've had years of it but clearly it's getting to me again.
And now she's doing it to her grandchild.
My daughter is almost 8. The sunniest, happiest little girl ever.
She used to bring my mum so much joy, now she's getting the same treatment as me, and it fucking hurts.
"Look nana, I can do a handstand!"
"I was really good at handstands, I did them all the time, I could do headstands too. I Was really good"
The same response with anything, me, me, me. All the fucking time.
Is there a word for this behaviour?
She just never offers a well done, or a good for you, or that's great can you show me?
I've just had enough, and I feel bad for my little girl. And me.