Am I being ungrateful or is this a bit shit?

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Been with my OH about 3 and a half years. No major issues, generally get on great.
In the time we have been together he has never bought me one item of jewellery - not a problem as such I certainly don't expect to be showered with gifts and yes, I am capable of buying my own jewellery.
I tend to wear some very simple stud earrings daily and a charm bracelet but other than that I don't wear much, mainly because anything else I own has been bought for me by an ex and it would feel weird wearing it now.
Anyway, a friend (female) bought me a necklace a couple of years ago for a birthday gift. Just a simple silver chain with a small pendant on. I haven't really worn it much but a few weeks ago I put it on and I guess it's become a bit of a habit wearing it so I now wear it daily. OH has made a few comments since I've been wearing it like 'but you don't wear jewellery' and 'oh we'll have to see if we can get you a new one' (no idea why, it's like he's slightly put out that I'm wearing it?)
Last night he came in from work and said 'come here let's choose you something' and opened up Amazon on his phone
When I asked what he meant he revealed that he'd received a £30 Amazon gift card from his life insurance and he wanted me to pick a necklace to the value of that. I told him not to bother and if he wasn't going to put the effort in of actually going to the jewellers and actually picking me something himself then I'd rather just wear the one my friend got me.
He's acting like I'm super ungrateful - AIBU here?

Seriously unimpressed with him.

30 quid for a necklace.

Lazy and mean.

I think you are pissed off because he's lazy and takes you for granted.

Some men become more thoughtful the longer a relationship goes on, but not many.

Lazy, a bit cheap, taking you for granted....

He doesn't sound like a prize.

I think if he had asked you if there was anything you wanted from Amazon as he had a gift card, that would have been nice of him.

I think it is possible he honestly thought you weren't interested in jewellery. But his reaction to you wearing something your friend bought and telling you to pick out a £30 necklace in order to replace it is slightly odd not to mention lazy and cheap.

He spent it on himself now anyway?

I think that would annoy me even more tbh

I think it sounds like he's "copped on" a little that you would actually appreciate jewellery, but not enough to know the full expectations!

He sounds like my dad. About 12 years ago, my then 16 year sister asked dad for some money because she needed a couple of pairs of new jeans and he handed her 20quid and when she said that's not going to be enough and I confirmed it, he looked bewildered and said "where are you going, do you not just get them in Dunnes like your mum?!" We had a good laugh at him for being so clueless about teenage spending and the general price of things.

I don't normally wear jewellery and DH know its because I don't really like it so he knows not to buy it. Maybe your DP thought you also didn't like jewellery that much and now that he's obviously realised, actually you would like some, he's just really out of his depth and a bit like my dad in regards how much it should cost!

I'd have a wee chat with him just and be honest about what your expectations are so you're both on the same page!