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Cafcass safeguarding interview, my metal health and few other questions.

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Fightingback16 · 21/10/2020 13:24

Not sure this is in the right section but I guess it is in a way about a relationship and so many on here have given me great advice before and probably been through it.

Next week I have my Cafcass safeguarding interview and looking for a bit of advice really. Will they get dirty, do they talk about mental health?

I don't know whether to bring up the state of my mental health when I left him. I suffered a breakdown in silence and PTSD which my IDVA did a great deal in supporting me and I'm in a much MUCH better position with my mental health. I know I have someone to talk to of it starts building up again. The doctor knows very little apart from that I lived in an abusive relationship over the years and then last year was diagnosed with M.E.

All I can assume is that I don't really talk about the impact it had on me and stay focused on how it impacts our daughter.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I'm a bit nervous now.

In a way I feel that too much info about what he actually did to me will make me look like a head case. Not that he has ever voiced any concerns and never did a thing to support and raise his child.

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TheBlueStocking · 21/10/2020 15:22

Yes, they will talk about your mental health. But if it's not medically documented, I probably wouldn't mention it. I'd just say you had a period of feeling low after the break up.

They're not trying to trick you, but they do ask very intrusive questions. So if don't want to talk about it, I'd not go into any detail.

TheBlueStocking · 21/10/2020 15:23

Also, sorry you have to go through this. I know how stressful and upsetting it is x

LilyWater · 21/10/2020 21:04

Is this a safeguarding issue about your child and how they are being looked after by you or your ex? Just be honest with them. If it has got to this point then it won't be a minor issue that has triggered this safeguarding interview. At the end of the day, they're there for the child's best interests so even if it's ultimately a decision that you or your ex don't like, they have to put the child's wellbeing first.

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