What do I do..

[Bpaap]

The following has had an effect on my current relationship and at times has a current effect on my mental health for different reasons..

Back story.
Knew a guy for years, clearly liked each other.. Both married. I left my husband after an ongoing big problem. Married guy declared his love for me over the years he knew me and left his wife.
We were together for 8 years.. All good, some parts hard as we had kids so that was to be expected.. But just as things felt 'settled' I found out he'd been messaging someone else.
I threw the towel in and moved out.
With this followed him begging me to the point of me getting a restraining order on him
2 years after it ended he was in touch.. He's been in touch ever since.
I have an android and although he's 'blocked' I still see them.
Messages can be weeks apart. I see him a lot where we live so it's like it's never ended in a way.
He says he wants to talk.. What would you do? Potentially this could go on forever?.. We've been split over 5 years.

I wouldn’t have fucked a married man in the first place and broken up a family. Do whatever you want to

Why don't you get a new number?

Get another restraining order. And if he ignores it, report him.

stop looking at the messages, ignore, change your number.

If it goes beyond him sending messages then contact the police

Scweltish I think you'll find we were both single at the time of getting together so I'd appreciate three non assumption that I deserve what I've had and am still getting?

As for changing my number , I have done, but I run a business so am easily traceable online.
As I said android you can't block.. Well you can but it still flashes up as a blocked message so what's the point?!
Restraining requires a pretty persistant course of harraament which I haven't got.. Still isn't any easier this far down the line

@Scweltish and the point of you commenting was? Stop projecting and ride your high horse home

Keep talking to the police, OP. Keep telling them how uncomfortable you feel and keep flagging it up with them. Keep records of every time he contacts you.

I'm sorry he's harassing you, a guy I dated briefly for two months (!) still sends me nasty messages coming up to a year after I broke it off, people who haven't experienced it don't understand how sickening it feels to never know when he's going to pop up again and force his way into your headspace. I cringe every time I get a message for fear that it's him.

As tempting as it is, and I’ve been there before, you should completely block him. You caught him texting someone once before, who’s to say he won’t do it again??? He seems to not be able to settle with one person for long before needing to seek attention from other women. It’s not worth the worry.

Get an iPhone and block his messages properly.

Bpaap, even though you see he has tried to contact you, you are not responding to him. I don't know what else you can do except continue no contact in that way. At least he isn't banging on your door (in which case restraint would be necessary). The man will get fed up with it eventually and you will be left in peace.

You seem to be getting a lot of people not reading your post properly OP was not an OW (not the point of the thread anyway), has been separated from this man for years and he has been harassing her for years so isn't likely to 'get fed up'. Please can everyone actually read the post before offering advice.

I do second a PP, can you get a different phone that you can fully block him with?

As I said android you can't block.. Well you can but it still flashes up as a blocked message so what's the point?!

Mine doesn't.
I can see on my call log if a blocked number has called me but I don't see any blocked messages.

Change your number

Hi,
Thanks for the replys.
OK so just for those that seem to be confused..
We are not together, haven't been for over 5 years
I've already changed my number, as I've said I've a business so a bit pointless doing it again?!
I kmond if think why should I shell out for a phone I don't want or need because of this?!
My android (huawei) blocks but flashes up 'you have a message from a blocked contact'.. So therfore pointless!
I obviously don't and haven't replied.
The police aren't interested in sporadic and of I have to class them 'nice' messages.
Guess theres no solution other than to live with it. But like someone else said its hard to switch off from it sometimes

Get an iphone, you'll never see messages from a blocked contact again.

Can you not switch off the notifications? I can do that for any app on mine.
consumer.huawei.com/in/support/content/en-gb00423579/

Raven how did you do this? I have tried in the past to remove it. I don't currently have notifications on for messages but this still flashes up in red on the front of my screen.

In the settings under notifications - do you remember which app it is telling you that a message has been blocked?

Can't see the point in talking you have previously had to get a restraining order on him. It's been 5 years, he's still badgering you, just message him/tell him "enough now," and walk away.

Raven I'm assuming it's just my messages as normal, no app as such. In settings all you can do is stop notifications flashing up on my screen or drop down which I already have.. I have no idea how to stop this, I also asked in EE and all they could suggest was xh aging my no before they understood why that's a waste of time.
Frozen agreed, I've replied previously when the order stopped, I felt sorry for him and figured I owed him an explanation as to why I left so abruptly but?!

Go to a phone shop and if they can't fix the settings, get a Sony or Samsung. You shouldn't be receiving notifications from blocked contacts.

Block and ignore him when you see him.

The notifications can be changed for pre-installed, background apps such as "Optimizer", which might be the one you need to switch off, as it says in that link.

"To disable notifications from a blocked number, kindly go to OPTIMISER > tap on BLOCKED > click the gear icon on the upper right corner (SETTINGS) > tap RECEIVE NOTIFICATIONS > select NEVER."

Go to a phone shop and if they can't fix the settings, get a Sony or Samsung. You shouldn't be receiving notifications from blocked contacts.

Absolutely. There must be a way to stop this.
Try googling too - put in the name of your phone and "how to stop seeing notifications of blocked messages" or similar.

It's worth the effort to finally get peace and quiet and remove every last temptation of replying to anything.

Raven.. I've done it.. Wow thank you so much, how come the shop don't know these things!!

My boyfriend left me with a child and im 7 months prego rn! im 18 and don't know what to do. I cant help but cry