Do I leave or not :(

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Long term 8 years no kids or married, he's been off work with a hand injury past 4 months, it's not only this but he is always online gaming and stays awake most nights and I'm on bed alone, IV spoken him before about it and it gets better then reverts back to his ways of sleeping through the day. He has always been this way it's jsut now I think I'm older it's really starting grate on me!! I still love him enjoy being around him it's just I'm really stuck on what to do as it will never get better, how I know to leave or stay when is the point enough is enough ?? All I know is it's hurting my heart when I think of leaving but I just don't think we are compatible :( X I have also met a man at work and nothing has happened but we clicked straight away and I keep wanting to message him ( he has messaged wanting to meet up with me) nothing had happened and I'm jsut all over the place what to do :( Please need advice.

Just leave.
Okay that's simplistic but it doesn't sound as if you are compatible living together. Think about it, could you imagine growing old together? What about retirement?

As for the guy at work. He is a symptom not an answer. Spend some time alone. Get to know yourself, work on friendships before "getting back out there". Give yourself time to reflect on what you really want.

It doesn't sound like you're happy with him. Ignore the man at work, its just a distraction and decide whether you still want to be with your partner.

He’s off work due to a hand injury but is capable of online gaming every night? Is he taking the Mickey? It sounds like you’ve drifted apart, but separate the new friendship for the moment and stay friends.

You don't need advice. You need to listen to your gut, you've already given your answer in your post.
End it, give yourself some time alone. Don't jump straight into whatever it is you're about to pursue, this person presumably knows you're in a relationship so won't be a 'decent' sort either.

Do you want to be with him when you are old and grey? If so perhaps some counselling will help? You need some space and time to work out your feelings. Ignore the man at work thats a complication you dont need!

Could it be the weirdness of this year? I kind of think so much has happened. We've all been trapped together for longer than is probably healthy. Plus getting less excercise through the summer and not going out and about like before.

I have had wobbles about mine recently too. Same amount of time together as you and children. But I got abit bored a couple of months back and started thinking of someone else would be better for me. But when I really focus on the issue it's 2020.

I know I'm boring this year. I've got nothing to talk about really. We've not had our holiday. Weve not had days out. We've not visited family. We've also spent all day together and not had space.

I would have a think. Write down what you like about him. Ask yourself if you are just fed up and bogged down with 2020.

I would've be surprised if many people are feeling like you or me.

Good luck.

What do you get out of this relationship now?.

You and he should not be together any more. The other man who has taken an interest in you is a symptom of the underlying problems in your current relationship and you need to be on your own.

Do not waste a further 8 years on this gamer with his apparent hand injury (which has not stopped him from online gaming).

How old are you both? You may have outgrown him.

He’s off work due to a hand injury but is capable of online gaming every night? Is he taking the Mickey?
TBF, that entirely depends on his injury / work. Any sort of manual labour would likely be out of the question for example.

But his gaming habits don't sound healthy, and he has shown he's not willing to change it despite it negatively impacting on your relationship. It doesn't sound like you're getting much out of being with him, and as a PP has said the other man is a red herring. You're unhappy, and that is enough reason to leave.

You have posted multiple threads over the past year about this. The responses are going to be the same.

You are young, it’s time to leave him. I spent sooo many years mourning my ex fiancé ghosting me that when I was ready to move on it was too late. I’d give anything to be your age to have the opportunity to meet someone while young.

If you wait too late it will be more difficult to find someone else as all the good ones will be taken or damaged goods 😂

You should leave him, my teenage son used to do this, I would not expect a responsible adult to be doing this.
Don't be fooled that he will ever change he won't.
If you have kids you will be a single parent.

Doesnt sound like much of a relationship. Listen to yourself, you know the answer.

Finish one thing cleanly before starting the next

Leave him, doesn't sound like you have a good relationship.