Can we get through this or should I end it? Please help

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I am 33 and started a relationship with my partner (also 33) a year ago now. We were friends before.

He is a wonderful person, I love him so much and find him attractive, but our sex life has never been great. This is partly because he has an issue where he cannot last more than about 30 seconds when we have sex (he is very speedy anyway but sex is the most difficult to sustain). He hasn't really had a serious relationship before so I initially thought it might just be his inexperience, but it seems to go quite a bit deeper than that. We've talked about it and tried various techniques together but it never gets any better.

I have tried so hard to be supportive, but I can't help but be disappointed and feel like it's really holding us back sexually. It also means that I still don't really have a feel for whether we are sexually compatible beyond the basics.

Even though I try to be upbeat with him when it happens, he is often really disappointed with himself in bed and sex generally has turned into such a sad experience for me that my sex drive has completely gone, I honestly dread it. Which is so upsetting because I love him and just want him to be happy.

What I want to know is whether you think this is something we can get through? Sex has been really good in past relationships and I just miss that so much, but he's the loveliest person I've ever been with and this is breaking my heart. I'm also obviously not getting any younger and I'm so worried about making the wrong decision.

My DH was given sertraline for depression. It's also prescribed for PE. It greatly increases time before ejaculating. Since he didn't have PE, it took 90 minutes or more sometimes. My poor twinkie and I were both relieved when his GP switched to a new medication.

If DH had problems with PE, I have no doubt it would have worked for him.

Worth looking into, maybe.

I'd talk to him about medical professional help before ending it.

www.innovaderma.com/our-brands/prolong/#:~:text=Prolong%20is%20the%20world's%20only,who%20suffer%20from%20premature%20ejaculation.

Funnily enough I was thinking about SSRIs and then thinking there must be other drugs that have a 'side effect' that's actually what you're looking for.

It's like any other physical problem - you go to a doctor. You don't just live with it forever and forever, because you're embarrassed.