why why and why again

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I rarely start threads on relationships but I am dumbfounded by this behaviour. This guy seems to really like me, it shows in eyes, body language, how they act. Yet they say nothing. I thought that they were just not that into me as they hadn't asked me out and it had been a few months. But then I saw them again recently and it seemed that they almost certainly did like me. Why are they not saying anything? Is this a really stupid question? They must have their reasons I just wish I knew what their reasons were. Maybe they will eventually one day say something. When we are old, and crotchetty, with excess hair coming out of our ears and nose, and my boobs are hanging near my waist, and I am stooped over and carrying a stick which I poke annoying people with.

Err...how do.you know him? In what context and how long?

Do you have each other's mobiles?

Do you have spinach between your teeth?

How old are you (both)? How likely is it that he's in a relationship? - or has children, or an awkward breakup, or both?

Have you tried asking him out?

So you say something then

Do you have spinach between your teeth? All the time!

How old are you (both)? We are both grown ups but have emotional ages of about ten it seems. Maybe he will get one of his friends to tell me he likes me.

How likely is it that he's in a relationship? Pretty certain not

or has children, or an awkward breakup, or both? Likely.

Have you tried asking him out? No.

How old are you actually, what context do you meet him, do you actually know him well? You don’t even know if he’s in a relationship?

He is probably not interested, sorry, but if you want to be sure the only way to know is to ask him out. And stop obsessing over him, it doesn’t sound like you even actually know him.

Please tell me you’re not the same person with the addition to psychics?.?.?.

He could be thinking the same about you, she seems interested why doesn't she say anything. Maybe he's shy, maybe he finds you attractive but he's just not that into you, maybe you're reading him wrong or hes not in ready for a relationship right now. We could list reasons endlessly, the only way to know is to ask him.

How old are you (both)? We are both grown ups but have emotional ages of about ten it seems. Maybe he will get one of his friends to tell me he likes me.

At least you have a sense of humour. Kick him in the shins, maybe he'll pull your pigtails.

Have you tried asking him out? No

I don’t understand op, how come you’re not dumbfounded you don’t say anything and are dumbfounded he doesn’t ?

Maybe he doesn’t like you like that and you’re misunderstanding?

I just said he wasn't in a relationship @12309845653ghydrvj . No I am not into consulting psychics, or I'd be asking them, rather than venting on here.

I think you are right though, he would have asked me out if he had wanted to, so he isn't interested. I was just a bit taken aback at how much he clearly seemed to like me. I can only assume I misread it. And he was just wondering how to tell me about the spinach. Ah well, live and learn and all that.

So how old exactly are you if you don't mind me asking?

I think you are right though, he would have asked me out if he had wanted to, so he isn't interested

And I guess the same can be said for you?

Why do people keep getting accused of going to psychics?

He could be thinking the same about you, she seems interested why doesn't she say anything. Maybe he's shy, maybe he finds you attractive but he's just not that into you, maybe you're reading him wrong or hes not in ready for a relationship right now. We could list reasons endlessly, the only way to know is to ask him. I know I completely agree. I am sorry I feel I am wasting people's time. I might be misreading or he might have good reasons or he might be insecure, who knows. I was just a bit dumbfounded by how he acted when I happened to meet him. I have recovered now. Maybe we will both be trapped in a lift one day and I'll find out.

@category12 Kick him in the shins, maybe he'll pull your pigtails you are right, that might just work... Or I could write "I love you" on my eye lids in eye liner and blink at him when I next see him...

@Frownette

Why do people keep getting accused of going to psychics?

Sorry my mistake, I thought OP was this slightly bonkers woman from a recent thread who was basically stalking a man she didn’t know and dropping lots of money on psychics

I don’t mind saying, I’m mid 20s. I was asking because I think it would be a different case if you were in your 60s or your 20s or whatever.

If you do know for certain that he’s single (apologies I think I misinterpreted the “pretty certain”) then nothing to be lost really by asking him out, at least you’ll get your answer one way or the other! Give it a punt, who knows!

If a man wants you in his life he'll put you there. No exceptions 👍

@AWiseWomanOnceSaidFuckThisShit I think you are right. I think if women or men want to ask each other out it is the same thing, I am all for equality, but I also agree with what you say. I am sure he knows how I feels and if he isn't talking to me about it, there is a reason for it. I get the vibe that he has feelings for me but not that he would go for it if I asked him out. I think I am going to follow the woman in your username and say "fuck this shit" and live life well until he comes to his senses.

@12309845653ghydrvj that is ok, but no I am not stalking him, not coming close!

knows how i feel not feels! or feelz

Atta girl. Don't chase x

You are all for equality except when it means asking someone out you are clearly interested in.

How would he clearly know how you feel, if you haven’t clearly said how you feel and no, giggling and tossing your hair, isn’t what I mean by being clear.

Oh for goodness sake, ask him out!

Write a note to him and ask your friend to pass it to him, remember to scent it with your lily of the valley and make sure your friend giggles as they zimmer away

and make sure your friend giggles as they zimmer away
though not too much as I don't want him to like her better than me