Parenting assessment in mum and baby foster placement

[NewMummy190820]

Hi. looking for any advice/support.

I am a 1st time mum to my beautiful daughter. I am 22 y/o and have come from a voilent relationship dating back about 7 years. Social services come involved when i admitted to midwife that there had been violence in relationship. Put on child protection. Told to do parenting assessment/pshycologicl assessments all to be done whilst we are living in a mum and baby foster placement. Not with babys father. Social worker/Midwifes/Hv/DV worker all have nothing but good things to say about me and praise me for how well i am doing. Our case in not in court and i agreed to do this voluntary to prove to them i can & will look after my baby and keep her from any harm. Obviously there are concerns that me and babys father can rekindle relationship as we was together 7 years. My main question here is can independent social worker fail my parenting assessment just because she "THINKS" relationship could continue in future. Could they take my baby away with no solid proof of me and babys father getting back together.. just that it is a worry. Sorry for long post. Any advice i would be really gratefu

Why are you thinking about that? Would you consider getting back with him?

@nolovelost Just because there are concerns we could get back together does not mean that we will. I have no intentions on getting back with him and that is why i am so worried that i will be punished when i am willing and doing everything in my power to keep me and my little girl together

You just need to show that you're not letting him back in to your life. If he's not around, then nothing can happen, therefore social workers will have nothing to act on. I'm not sure I get your point. If you don't see him, then surely you're keeping her safe? Unless there's anything your're missing out?

Does he see your daughter? If he does I would use a third party handover so you don't have any contact with him whatsoever.

They won't take your baby away if you have nothing to do with him. But if you do, then they have solid evidence that you may get back together. Do everything by the book. Be completely transparent. Have no contact.

My main question here is can independent social worker fail my parenting assessment just because she "THINKS" relationship could continue in future.
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If the independent social worker thought the above it would be based on evidence . For example your attitude to the relationship, if you are able to see the abuse in the relationship and how inappropriate it was for you and how dangerous and harmful it would be for your baby to be in that environment. It would also be based on any evidence they had that there had been contact etc. But I want to be clear assessment in mother and baby centres are serious business. They are clearly worried about your vulnerability and must have very serious concerns about your ability to protect yourself and your baby. I see women in my work all the time who try and deceive social workers etc and then end up having their children taken off them. They then are left heartbroken with abusive men. It doesn't end well if they don't throw themselves into the help and support that Sw/ women's aid etc can offer. Please look after yourself and your baby.*

@nolovelost I haven’t seen him. I haven’t seen any one as a matter of fact. I haven’t left my daughters or carers side. We can straight here from the hospital (Voluntry). There was no order to say I must do this but I done it for the protection of me and my daughter. Just worried because I have been back & forth for a very long time will they just look at it as she will go back even though i am doing everything to prove I will not.

@SunniCameHomeWithAVengeance he does see he’s daughter at a contact centre until he’s assessments are done and they can say wether he is fit or not to see her. I have asked for this to always be supervised either at contact centre or by he’s mum/sister. I will not be the one dropping off my daughter to him

@Clymene thank you. I am doing absoloutely everything by the book and taking all the help and support whilst I can.

@duggeeismynewbestfriend thanks for your message. We are in a mother and baby foster placement for unit. They placed us here for support in early days as I am a care leavers with not a lot of family support and also to protect us from dad whilst he has assessments to say wether he is fit or not. There are not serious concerns otherwise it would have gone straight to court. There is no sign of going to court as long as I stay away which I will. They have given me a chance to prove I will put myself and my daughter first. Which I have done all three pregnancy, these 2 months and will continue to do.