Lockdown restrictions writing off my dates

[LilMissRe]

Just that really. It is a little bit of a rant and I do feel bad for writing this as in the grand scheme of things, the pandemic is posing many more major problems than just my own little dating lull.
I'v been seeing a guy for a few months that seems so lovely- he lives an hour away from me and has always been keen to come visit me which is really nice.
The trouble is I live in Wales- he doesn't, and with the looming circuit breaker that could last for up to 3-4 weeks I really do not know what I or he can do. He's very hesitant about virtual dates and would much rather have face to face conversations and meet up.

So I feel I only have two choices; not comply and meet up outside/ in each other's homes or wait for the fizzling out of this potential relationship and accept that. Would a man happily continue to just text/talk without seeing someone for up to 4 weeks? I'm not sure, and wonder whether this particular guy would just see my situation as an inconvenience, and he'd just date locally to him.

That if that happens, I guess would be a hard pill to swallow but would be for my own good. I just don't want this pandemic to write off any potential relationship I invest in and sever it for me and take the control away from me. I really want to keep getting to know him, spend lots of time with him and he has said the same thing about me. I'l miss the physical company and affection and when you are first dating I feel that is quite important to have, enjoy and maintain.

I'm feeling sad about this all and was hoping if anyone here could offer any other suggestions or advice really, beyond the 2 choices I have given myself- what would you do?

Where does he live? Couldn't you go to him?

No words of advice except lots of sympathy really.

You definitely shouldn’t feel bad for feeling sad about your own circumstances. Someone always has it worse off, doesn’t erase your feelings.

It’s a really shitty situation, I have a few friends who have struggled and things have fizzled out.

Is he an hour away into England? What tier is he in? Are you in the Cardiff bit with higher numbers or more in the middle?

Tbh 4 weeks is nothing.
If he isn't prepared to wait 4 weeks and would rather choose someone local it says more about him than you! 🤷🏻‍♀️

If he really thinks anything of you (as you think he does) then a four week wait in these circumstances will be OK.

It’s absolutely shit isn’t it OP?

I think you need to weigh up potential risk of Covid (to you and contacts) and potential risk of loneliness/unhappiness then make your own call.

I’m not in quite the same situation as the guy I’m seeing lives in the same county as me, but I’m definitely erring towards using our own judgment on this rather than blindly following the rules. He’s already had it. I’m a teacher so massively exposed anyway. I don’t think that the two of us meeting in one of our homes is going to add to either of our (or our children’s) risks.

If he's going to lose interest in 4 weeks is he really worth worrying about? . I am clearly very old fashioned but when I first met my DH (married over 30 years) we lived 100 miles apart and he went on long business trips overseas so we could easily go 5-6 weeks without meeting, that was well before mobile phones, email, etc etc still got the air mail letters we used to write.

I think a 4 week wait is doable although the press reports today say it’s going to be 2-3 weeks anyway.

Thanks everyone
I am in Cardiff and he's in Clevedon. You are right, if he wants to continue to see me, this shouldn't be an issue. I guess I am a little upset as lockdown has been very difficult for me to date and I finally found someone I quite like and want to do things with and this lockdown has thrown it all up in the air.

A lot of people on the dating apps through my experience go for convenience and with the choice that is available I can understand why, especially since for me, he's not dated me for long.

I guess if it's meant to be, it'll be.