I’m in long distance relationship with partner and have 2yo. Father is 2 hour flight away (not going to go into detail but we can’t live in same country for now). I’m 7 months pregnant and also have another DD who is 9yo to different dad. I’m not from UK either, so zero family support.
Last week I did not have child care as child minder was on holidays, I’ve been working from home (work is crazy busy) and partner also had the week off from Tuesday, he will now be off until end of the month. It was our 2yo bday on Saturday but he chose to play in sporting tournament on Friday in his country and flew back on Saturday afternoon.
I was upset that he prioritised his sporting tournament and when I last saw him told him not to bother coming back here as he wasn’t going to step up when I needed him, plus he’d originally said he was going to fly back on Sunday (so totally miss 2yo bday). Today he told me he wouldn’t change what he did and would still go to tournament as he’d committed, it’s an individual sport, not team. I went wild. Left house. I came back and he announced he would like to take 2yo back with him now as he doesn’t feel comfortable here then said I can do my work without having 2yo to worry about. I’ve said no. He said that I’m punishing him. Said I should have joined him for 2yo bday(I had good reason not to travel for the weekend on my own with kids) I also took a weeks holiday at end of month. I’m not sure if it’s pregnancy hormones, lack of consideration/care, selfishness (on my partners part), realisation our relationship is terrible and I’m not priority. How would you handle it ? I’ve spent the last two hours crying (he’s in bed) and now really not wanting this baby. I’m just so sad