Is there anyone else like this

[Trina001]

Is there anyone else that just doesn't have any friends?

I genuinely do not have a single friend.

Yes, more than you think. A lot of people have no friends, especially men. My ex for example had many many acquaintances, but no friends.

My partner can get up and go to his friend on a Saturday night whenever he wants but I cant because i genuinely don't have anyone to meet up with.

I don't think I can go the rest of my life feeling so lonely.

I am 30 in a few months

There are a LOT of people in the same boat OP.
Can you start a hobby, join a gym class, something where you can meet likeminded people?

Yep, no real life friends.

I don't have any friends either but strangely I don't feel lonely. I have realised that I am terrible at keeping friendships going because it's just too much hassle having to make an effort and actually talk to or meet up with them. I do keep in touch with my siblings though (albeit not regularly) and could ring or go and see them if I needed to.

If you're struggling to meet people for friendship, how about joining a group of some sort where you can chat about and form a bond over a shared interest or hobby?

I live in a very small town. I don't know why I don't have friends I can be quiet I dont like to force myself on to people. I dont think people like me.

My partner isn't in the least bit concerned, he's quite happy to get on with his life. I cant talk to him, he's not a listener and I'm not a priority in his life.

I am struggling to cope with him being how he is and how I feel and there is no one I can talk to.

Yep, a school mum im friendly with and someone i considered a friend but never contacted me while i was on maternity and took 2 weeks to reply to my messages and actively dodged me asking if she wanted to meet up is all i have. I have my sisters but i would love a 'best friend'

I know a lot of people but don't really have any friends.

I am far more concerned about your comments about your partner than your stated problem

If you are not connecting with people, how did you end up with a partner?

Can't you with your DP to socialize with his friends? It's a start.

Does he invite you along?

Yep not one single friend. No txtd/calls in years from a friend. I had 2 best friends from school, they were like sisters to me & one of them was sleeping with my then fiancée, I lost my whole circle in one awful week!

Since then (12years ago) I’ve found it hard to connect to people. I can’t trust anyone, my confidence took a real knock, I had depression/anxiety & agrophia.

I met my husband & we have 2 kids & his parents. I am an only child with no loving relatives. So overall I feel very alone in life.

I’ve tried over the past few years to get to know ppl & make friends but it fizzled out or I we don’t have anything in common at all. As long as I have my DH & kids I will be ok.!

Sorry I have just seen your update. Gosh, are you staying with him because you’re so lonely?

Yes not a single friend either I'm hoping to change that next year get out more etc !

Trina I can relate to everything you have posted.

I don't have any advice, except that I plan to join a few more groups etc. when covid eases. I suppose I have what I would loosely term as friends...but I end up making all the effort to contact them and this doesn't make me feel too good. I sometimes question what I have done wrong to end up in this predicament but perhaps I have just been unlucky (including a friend who moved abroad). I'd like a bit more of a social life. I think I'm going to have to dig deep and just go ahead and join things and hope I meet a few likeminded people along the way. I have dcs at home and I guess I focus on them a lot because other areas of my life just aren't that good.

I met him through a friend I had once a few years ago. That friendship fizzled out. I wouldn't say I'm in a great relationship with my partner.

I used to go with him to his friends house but a few weeks ago he humiliated me in front of those people so now I cant show my face. That doesn't seem to bother him either.

I did have confidence once, I no longer do. Maybe that is affecting me making friends. One good friend is all I need.

Me. I literally have one friend.

Me. No friends either. We should all start up a group

Nope no friends here I literally have no one I can pop round for a cuppa with or phone for a chat I thought I had a friend but actively has ignored me while I've been on maternity leave my dh is the only adult I talk to and half the time he's not even that interested

What did he do to humiliate you OP?

Sounds like your partner isn’t adding a lot to your confidence and self esteem - or your life? If you have no family or friends to discuss your life/situation/relationship, can you afford some counselling? Online via zoom or WhatsApp?