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Pregnant and just being hormonal?

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homeiswhereyoullfindme · 17/10/2020 19:13

My partner is great, he is my best friend and although he isn't perfect I am very happy. We are having our second DS in a week and very excited but I'm so tired and feeling really crap about myself. Looking tired and having swollen ankles at the end of the days but otherwise it's been a great pregnancy.
My partner can be quite insensitive. He calls it "real" and honest but sometimes I think it's just unnecessary. He told me I'd put on weight in places he didn't even know I could.. I laughed it off and gave him the death stare and he said oh no your I'm still beautiful etc and that he loves me, and I feel very secure in the relationship. But today he was on the phone to his friend who is staying in London, he said what have you done all day got escorts? His friend laughed and said no (phone was on loudspeaker and not at all private from me) my partner said oh well you should because wow they are amazing up there SO sexy etc. I was gobsmacked. We are very open and I know about things he did before we met which I don't particularly like but one thing he says he's never done is sleep with an escort, if he had before we met I mean I wouldn't have much I could say about it so no need to lie. I thought to myself.. have a bit of fucking empathy here I'm sat here like a whale feeling shit and your talking about these amazing women escorts and encouraging a friend to get one 😐 it annoyed me. It was just a very lad thing to say and he's not usually like that or at least not in front of me. I dread to think of what they all talk about when the wives aren't around ha!

Am I just being a hormonal twat? It's not like he said he wanted to get one etc. Our sex life is great although limited right now. He just has no filter! He openly will say if he sees a celebrity who he things is hot, not so much normal people but he does sometimes. It does make me feel a bit shit and he knows this. Would you say anything?

OP posts:
QualityFeet · 17/10/2020 19:20

Say anything? A partner who thinks it’s ok to call me fat when I am pregnant and to encourage the use of sex workers? Someone who you imply has a different persona around male friends than he does me?

I wouldan’ t be saying anything. I would be getting in my car and fucking off with my bump and baby. Then we might have a chat but really it would be a lot for him to persuade me that we weren’t already finished.

Take care of yourself and be more critical - how did any of this ever become ok. What becomes ok next? You should be cherished at the moment - go to people who will cherish you if possible.

MadeForThis · 17/10/2020 19:33

He's a wanker.

MikeUniformMike · 17/10/2020 20:27

He's not great and he's not your best friend. I agree with pp.

EatDessertFirst · 17/10/2020 20:32

He sounds vile. Is that the environment you want to bring your child into? Don't you deserve a million times more??

Bin the twat off. Who does he think he is?

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