Is this going anywhere?

[CharlieD911]

I’ve been dating the same guy for 3 months now... and the first 2 and a half months were absolutely incredible. Now I don’t even know what’s going on! He appears to be distancing himself from me, he’s not messaging me as he was and I feel like making plans with him is becoming more and more difficult. I’m not sure if this is happening because he’s seen that I’m getting feelings for him and wanting to progress things which has scared him or if he’s just lost interest? I’m terrified of approaching the subject as I don’t want to push him further away... any suggestions how I could do this?

Talk to him. You never know what’s going on in a mans head!

If a man behaves in a way which suggests he is losing interest, it’s generally because he’s losing interest. Trust your instincts on that. Never make excuses for what appears to be a lack of interest. If a man wants to see you, he will make it happen.

Don’t trust it being amazing during the first few months. It may continue to be amazing but often amazing early days are indicative of love-bombing and fantasy and interest fades as soon as things get a bit real.

He may just have decided you’re not for him. I think 2-3 months in is a real crunch point in this regard. I’ve had a few relationships end around then. Or he may just like the thrill of the chase and feel that bit’s done now.

I think the most effective way to deal with it is to get really busy and interested in other activities (to the extent possible in COVID times). It’s win-win for you. The busier and more distracted you are, the less his withdrawal will bother you. And you will have the pleasure of engaging in the activities.

Sure it will sting for a bit but you’ll be fine in due course. And you might meet someone more interesting through your new activities.

I think it sounds like he's either lost interest or has backed off from commitment. I think when a man is into you they make it really obvious, so if you're feeling this way I think it's a bad sign.

If a man behaves in a way which suggests he is losing interest, it’s generally because he’s losing interest. Trust your instincts on that. Never make excuses for what appears to be a lack of interest. If a man wants to see you, he will make it happen

This is it. And its douchey of him to not just be honest with you

I feel like making plans with him is becoming more and more difficult
In my experience, that kind of slipperiness means he wants out.
Might be worth asking him if he is happy, in case he actually hasn't worked out what's going on in your head and thinks you're not that bothered. And if he really does want out, letting it drag out for ages won't be any nicer...