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The lowdown on dating sites? Anyone tried elite singles?

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RosieJam123 · 17/10/2020 10:12

Hi ladies,

I've just come out of a relationship, so not looking for a relationship but just want to see what's potentially out there - more for a browse.

I've heard horror stories with OLD, and as I'm now 31 it sounds as if I'm going to bump into lots of man children, who are all potentially divorced with kids, which isnt an issue as I have 5 yr old DS also.

I'm a professional so was going to try elite singles to see if it weeds some of these stereotypical men out. But it's a hefty £80 per month!! Has anyone tried it? What is the general consensus on certain dating sites around my age group?

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WellQualifiedToRepresentTheLBC · 17/10/2020 10:47

I had tremendous luck on tinder at age 31.

Its now 5 years later and I live with a tinder match. I have DC, he doesn't.

I've never met a soul who has tried elite singles. The amount of men on free apps, especially in the age group you reference, means that paying that kind of fee is totally unnecessary.

Givemeabreak88 · 17/10/2020 11:40

£80 a month! And I bet most of the men are on the free sites as well anyway

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RosieJam123 · 17/10/2020 14:47

I got the figure wrong there its £17 a month. The only thing with Tinder is can you really find decent ambitious, career driven men? Or are they only on there for a bit of rumpy pumpy?

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TeaOneSugar · 17/10/2020 14:51

There will be men on elite singles looking for a ONS and men on Tinder looking for love, its a numbers game whichever site you use.

WellQualifiedToRepresentTheLBC · 17/10/2020 16:56

@RosieJam123

I got the figure wrong there its £17 a month. The only thing with Tinder is can you really find decent ambitious, career driven men? Or are they only on there for a bit of rumpy pumpy?
There are all sorts of men on all sorts of apps. Also, there will be decent, ambitious, career driven men who will also be looking for casual sex. Those aren't even nearly mutually exclusive. Equally, you may date a decent man who shags you and then decides the chemistry isn't there, even though he was after something long term.

If you are trying to select a dating app that will somehow ensure that you will never get your hopes up about a man and then have them dashed, that isnt going to work. Dating is about taking risks and trying things out.

Swaning · 17/10/2020 17:05

Met my lovely DP on POF. 2 years and he works hard, never messed me around and is bloody gorgeous.
He is 39. On the free app. I was his first chat/ date. Its a numbers game.
Elite singles is apparently full of women and not many men apart from old bald ones. I have 1 friends whos getting married, mid 30s, met on POF. Another friend met fiance on Tinder, mid thirties. Both weddings delayed by COVID. All professionals with well paid jobs.

Its about the people you meet, rather than where you meet them.

Ive twice paid for Match... and twice just met players or unsuitables.

WishICouldThinkOfAGoodName · 17/10/2020 17:13

Elite is great, I had loads of dates with nice eligible men and they were all intelligent professionals. I met my current bf on there.

harriethoyle · 17/10/2020 17:16

I found Elite Singles promised much but delivered very little. Didn't meet anyone on there. Met DP on Bumble 2 years ago and we're getting married in Dec ❤

Bunnymumy · 17/10/2020 17:19

I'd suspect it would be full of narcissists tbh. Even more than most dating sites. I mean, who thinks if themselves as 'elite' for a start...?

safeordangerous · 17/10/2020 18:49

@RosieJam123

I got the figure wrong there its £17 a month. The only thing with Tinder is can you really find decent ambitious, career driven men? Or are they only on there for a bit of rumpy pumpy?
Yeah on the free sites it's more of a lottery. Tinder for example. As mentioned blokes probably as likely to be on the free sites as the pricey ones. Probably with elite /match etc you have a higher likelihood of matches being serious but they could still be no better quality wise. Bumble is a good one to test the waters on. My current partner said she was on elite and found the men were too career driven. Had to be reminded about dates as they were so busy it would easily slip their minds. We met on zoosk (I paid about 40quid for three months) and she said that was better. Really is a lottery with OLD. Ive been told that as we get older its harder for women to get a good match but I suppose I have no point of reference and have done ok perhaps because of this!
safeordangerous · 17/10/2020 18:54

@Swaning

Met my lovely DP on POF. 2 years and he works hard, never messed me around and is bloody gorgeous. He is 39. On the free app. I was his first chat/ date. Its a numbers game. Elite singles is apparently full of women and not many men apart from old bald ones. I have 1 friends whos getting married, mid 30s, met on POF. Another friend met fiance on Tinder, mid thirties. Both weddings delayed by COVID. All professionals with well paid jobs.

Its about the people you meet, rather than where you meet them.

Ive twice paid for Match... and twice just met players or unsuitables.

With elite is that because its a lot more expensive for men?
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RosieJam123 · 17/10/2020 21:00

Yeah it sounds it's more like a lottery with OLD. I may try the free ones then to start with, I'm not particularly interested in meeting anyone just yet as I'm happy on my own. But eventually it would be nice to know there are decent guys around on OLD

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