I think MN has made me more aware of this and I’m not sure if this is just normal or mentionitis.
DH is a teacher and has started at a new school this term. He works with one woman called Julie let’s say, and sits next to her in the office (have to sit assigned because of Corona). They share the year groups in their bubble. She is the most attractive woman in the department in my opinion, but not like “woah supermodel” so it never made me insecure (I’m quite an insecure person)
DH will regularly talk about school and always has. So he will always mention who the event involves, at the moment it’s “so Sally then says” “kids said Sally is a witch” “Sally this” and “Sally that”. It’s always in the context of a story, ie something happened. He does mention other colleagues too but Sally comes up the most. It could be my insecurities focusing on her name as she is the most attractive. She’s newly married too so I don’t have any reason to suspect.
I did the same when I started my job and was working with one specific colleague, I went on about things he’d told me such as stories or things that had happened “Dave said this, Dave told me that” etc, I noticed how much I mentioned him. I didn’t fancy him or find him attractive, actually the opposite.
So is DH’s behaviour “mentionitis” and is mentionitis always in a bad context or can you just innocently mention someone a lot because you’re round them a lot?