New partner

[whataday12]

Hi I hope everyone is ok and well . I am in bit of an odd situation. I have been dating this man I have known for 3 years . Only been dating about two months. We get on great . He's a lovely person . Really in to me . But we havnt even kissed 😳. It's me I am the reason. Iv had relationships , dated the lot but I have never felt like this before . As much as I want too and I mean I think about it a lot . But the thought of kissing him let alone sleeping with him freaks me out . I am so nervous and I don't know why. When we talk about it and I think about it after my stomach turns with nerves . Then I have worried all day today what if I just can't do it with him . Because when it comes down to it il be way too nervous ! I have never felt like this or thought like this so what the he'll is going on . I even said to him today I'm going to have to have a few drinks before hand. He said it's fine but obviously doesn't want to be doing that every time . Can anyone give me any reasons why I have felt like this please . Thankyou

Are you really into him though? Or do you like the fact that he's really into you? This man though has the patience of a saint! So he must really like you. But do you honestly really fancy and like him?

Since, this is not how you normally are in dating, I would say your gut has picked up on something in him that is putting you off. Maybe an 'ick' of some sort?

Dating should be with someone you madly fancy and can't wait to get physical with. There's always past issues like trauma etc that might hinder this, but you've said this isn't your pattern, so it's just him. As great as someone might be on paper, chemistry doesn't always translate. And maybe logically you think you should date him, but emotionally you're just not that into him.

I had that with a friend. Loved spending time with him, thought he'd be great to date, he expressed an interest, thought he was attractive, but the thought of actually being physical always made me a bit ill. Not sure why, but I think it's because I didn't really fancy him as much and so it felt like i was forcing myself.

If you're sure you fancy him, then yes, drink.

Can you not plan it? I think it’s worse. It’s like when a guy asks you then things can be awkward. Just tell him to go for it if you really like him?