Help....what do u think?

[6kidmums]

My son in law of 4 years has a son with his previous girlfriend. He is now expecting a child with my eldest daughter. She currently has 12 weeks left. 2 days ago he told her that he slept with his sons mum a few wks ago and she has chlamydia. I am so angry and upset for my daughter.
She has kicked him out. His excuse is that he has depression ( which weeks ago hesaid he doesn't believe in depression) and that his dad did the same thing. Like a family tradition by the sounds and that his ex had it all.planned .. so yeh he went along with it.
My daughter keeps sticking up for what excuses he throws at her..1. Because she does love him .. 4 years is a long time, 2 she is pregnant with there baby.
What is she to do?
I for one couldnt take a scum bag like that.... is it the first time and would he have told her he did it if the news she had chlamydia?
One vex momma here.

Be there for your daughter. Let her make her own choices and mistakes. Love her unconditionally. She will do what is right for her when she is ready. Don’t push her away so she is trapped in a bad situation.

Oh I am. I am supporting her. But its so hard to see our eldest get so hurt, by someone who is suppose to love her, care for her. And to be his ex who cannot just forget about due to having a son with her makes it worse plus catching an sti and passing it on to my daughter whilst she's pregnant. Yes ok he didn't know, but still.

Well, she has kicked him out so that's a good sign.

Tell her you know it's very painful and scary but unless she wants her life to continue to be a Jeremy Kyle episode, she'd be better to separate and focus on herself and her imminent child.

Oh and it's quite unlikely he shagged his ex once, out of the blue when his wife was 12 wks off giving birth.

Some people in dysfunctional, fucked up situations keep having sex with exes, sounds like they are such a pair.

Can your DD get access to any of his comns to check what he's been saying and doing with ex to date?

*Comms

Or maybe the ex will drop him in it if asked/provoked.

Though she'll probably lie for him.
Since he's clearly still got her emotionally involved, pays her maintenance, co-parents etc.

If it were me and I have contact details for her, I'd send her an inflammatory message saying she's a desperate, pathetic, jealous, dirty, std infected blah blah and he's told you all about what she did and said to get him into bed that one time etc. .. then hopefully she'll spill the beans on what he's been doing and saying to her, probably on an ongoing basis. Your DD might see the light then about his excuses.

Not nice but ... Needs must.

She might not answer of course but most would kick off.

As harsh as it sounds, your daughter needs to get checked out. Chlamydia is dangerous for unborn babies 😢

Which of them has chlamydia? Your dd or your son-in-law’s ex?
Either way she did the right thing. Tell her to make sure he is financially responsible for the baby.