Can anybody recommend a dating app?

[coastergirl]

Hello!

To give a bit of background, I was married and had one child, we split up four years ago when little one was 16 months old. I met him on pof. I then met a guy (also on pof) who I had a relationship with that was very on and off. We very irresponsibly had a child together because we both wanted more kids and thought we got on well enough to co-parent really well together if it didn't work out. Hmmmmm. Our little boy (almost 16 months) is incredible and I'll never regret having him, but the relationship between me and his dad isn't good. We share our son quite well most of the time but it's difficult sometimes.

Anyway, the reason I came here is I'm getting fed up of being on my own. I don't get the chance to go out (I work almost full time as well as having my two boys) and I'm so sick of the crap on most dating sites. I've reached the point where I don't mind paying for a site if I'll meet decent men, but I'd love to know if they are worth it before I fork out money I can't really afford.

Does anybody have experience of eharmony or others? What would you recommend? Any advice would be much appreciated.

Hinge is pretty good. It's free and not a swipe app. Give it a go!
Good luck xxx

Avoid Bumble!

Can I make a gentle suggestion, and I mean this with the greatest of kindness...

There are some great guys, and not so great guys on all dating sites. What matters is your ability to be able to weed out the crap and be really clear about your boundaries, what sort of person you want to meet, what sort of relationship you want, and stick to it.

POF, tinder, etc. are all fine if you are clear about the above. I met my now fabulous DH on POF, but not after sifting my way through a lot of men who weren't right for a number of reasons.

My friend joined hinge after I recommended it to her from seeing people saying it was good on here and she hated it, she said it was full of weirdos and deleted it 12 hours later! I think most men are on all of them tbh so I don’t think it really matters which one you choose. I would probably just go with tinder just because it’s the most popular and as said above just make it clear what you are looking
For and don’t settle.

Elite Singles! I was a single mum so not much time for going out. It's paid for so i found the men were more serious and looking for the same things as me. Am very happily married 3 years to the man I met on there, DC 3 on the way!

Not hinge, its awful. I met my partner on elite singles

Also my son was only 18 months when I met him so dating with a little one is totally possible :)

I met my partner on Bumble! I agree with PP that it doesn't really matter which you use, it's your ability to sort the wheat from the chaff that matters. There are a few good men out there, among all the schmucks.

My experience is also that a lot of men are on multiple sites.

I met my boyfriend on bumble
I managed to get a refund out of eharmony.
They were utterly shit

@DrFoxtrot

My experience is also that a lot of men are on multiple sites.

Agree with this . When I was dating, I'd find the same men across multiple platforms. Often those who were on the paid sites had a profile on the free ones too as, well, they're free!