I have a relatively new fwb situation. Guy I have known for ages. Like him a lot, find him attractive and he is not looking for a full on relationship which suits me.
I’m just not sure how this should work? I realise that whatever works for the two consenting adults involved is all that matters, but I would be interested to hear what other successful fwb relationships have looked like.
We saw each other once a week at first but that tailed off and it’s weeks between encounters now. We continued to chat as friends as before but that has also become much less frequent. I imagine that this is pretty normal? When we do text it’s still friendly and gets quite steamy.
It just seems very much on his terms. I can’t message and say I’m hoping to see him. He is dismissive if I do. So I have to wait for him to suggest it. He can come to my house because I live alone but he lives with family members so I have never been to his place.
He works long hours and I do understand that he doesn’t have a lot of spare time but we both have high sex drives and once a month is just not enough for me.
Neither of us are sleeping with other people and nor do I want to.
Part of the reason I don’t want a full on relationship is that I have work to do on my boundaries and I’m not sure if I’m doing very well with them in this situation. Or if this is just the nature of casual?
I’m in my forties but was in a long abusive marriage so I still have a lot to learn.