My partner is killing me at the moment. I can't do anything right. For example, we're moving and he's got a wad of papers, 90% of which are going in the bin. I have my phone in one hand, baby in the other, nowhere to sit to take the call so I say as I'm about to sit on the papers on the sofa "have you sorted these papers, because I'm going to sit on them" as they're lying in the only place I can sit. DH goes mad, and says it's disrespectful. I apologise, later I check he's okay and blow him a kiss. I try to explain I wasn't trying to be disrespectful, but that there was nowhere to sit and I had the baby.
This falls into a mammoth argument. He goes on to say I've gone to sit on them intentionally and that I did it to disrespect him because he hadn't sorted out his papers yet. All of which is untrue. He goes on to say that "you'll pay for this" and gives analogies of if he sat on my late fathers picture and broke it. Stupid examples that aren't even similar to the situation at hand.
The argument blows up as we're completing on a house tomorrow and I say to him "what are we even bothering for". We end up swearing at each other and I take the baby out to get away from him and subjecting her to more poor behaviour on both our parts.
This type of argument is constant. He is consistently picking me apart with nonsense like this and belittling me. For example he recently disclosed to his friends, when asked, at a lads dinner that we've not had sex since the baby was born. He didn't tell them bu avoided the question as which point they knew. He comes back home and tells me about his night and afterwards asks whether I think we're right together. This winds me up because it's a single girl with a young child asked about the second thing and inadvertently disclosed it to everyone where they then seemingly ended up all having a conversation about our relationship. Yet DH goes mental if I speak to anyone about him.
We're moving tomorrow and I've spent the whole week packing, alone, with a 3 month old baby. We're in a small flat and I explain I need to put boxes in the lounge as it's the biggest room and there's no room anywhere else for them. He says I can't do that and that the tv / sound system should be the last thing to be packed even though it's the only area in the house I can put boxes. He watches tv every night.
He's taken no days off this week to help with the move nor done anything to help other than buy some boxes he taken the day off tomorrow which is our actual moving day and he's leaving work early today (4pm...) to pick up a car that's in the garage where I have to drive him and waste the precious packing time I have.
Last night when going to bed he tells me he wants me to sign a document to confirm he owns 50% of the house we're buying and which has sale clauses in if we break up. We end up in an argument because I feel it shows he's one foot out of the door and he doesn't see why I'm upset. Yet if I try to sit on some papers because there's nowhere to sit then I'm being disrespectful ?
It's like this all the time.
I could go on and on.
Do you stick this out in the hope it gets better? I don't want to let our DD down but I can't cope with this. I'm miserable.