Help please re court case

[dublingirl66]

Hello all

You helped me many times here

I just wonder if you could help with the following

Ex mad man tried to kill me
He locked me in a room for ten hours and many times put his hands around my neck to strangle me

We had my father coming for dinner that evening and he stopped just before my father came and acted like nothing had happened !!!
My dad took pics of he and I
The abuser is now going through criminal court
He told the police that he has pics of me looking happy just after he tried to kill me and that there are no marks on my neck
I went to hospital the next day and have on record what he did thankfully !!

Will this photo carry any weight in court? Or is he just clutching at anything he can !! 😢😢

It's just another one of his bullying manipulative tactics. You are doing an amazing job going through this.
He can show whatever photos he wants, the email you have from him admitting it is damning. He is trying to scare you because you are fighting back.

If he's trying to contact you even indirectly have a word with the police.

I'm sure someone with some legal training can confirm, I think you have to be careful about what you post online until after the trial is over. I know you obviously want to talk, vent and get reassurance, just please be aware about how much you reveal.

An awful lot of men in domestic assault cases will plead not guilty in the hopes that their victim will either withdraw the statement or fail to show up for court. On so many occasions, when they learn that the victim HAS turned up to give evidence, they immediately change plea and go guilty. Hes relying on you losing your nerve. Please stay strong.

Thanks all

I changed some details also !!

Hopefully can attend via video
Wait and see I guess

Even got emails from him saying he just strangled me to scare me

Ha ha ha. He's fucked.

He's a mad man !!

Like serious mental problems here

Like he has erased all the truth and is pining hope in this picture
And yes there is no bruising on my neck it was taken hours after the attack
There was bruising the next day
And all well documented

He wants me to be prosecuted for wasting doctors time
He wrote this multiple times

I went through very similar, crown court too after a not guilty plea.

It's terrifying, and unpleasant, but the judge will see it for what it is, and I didn't have any photos at all, and he was found guilty.

His solicitor accused me of starting an argument because I caught him watching porn, of all things. The truth was very different.

Keep strong, he's only sending you these things because he's losing. He's trying to frighten you, but you giving evidence will show him you're too strong to be manipulated.
Chin up, keep going xx

@Carrotgirl87 can I ask how many pieces of evidence you had to help you?
Sorry if you can be vague in any way

I worry he will lie and lie and charm his way like he has all his life

He has prior convictions so that won't help

It's ok I can talk about it now it was a while ago.

General jist was I found out he was smoking heroin in the bathroom, with our son in bed next door. I called my mum, woke my son up and left the house. As I was leaving he rugby tackled me in the driveway, knelt on my chest and had my arms pinned down.. my mum pulled up in the car and saw him and called the police. He fled.

The CPS pressed charges from our statements, the only evidence I had was my word, and my mums statement, but it was enough.

In court the porn thing caught me off guard, it was the first I'd heard of it, so I think the judge must've seen the very real confusion on my face. He was found guilty with a fine and suspended sentence, I got a restraining order, and believe me when I say I reported EVERY single contact he ever tried to make before trial, to the police online chat, so it was all on record. He quickly learnt not to contact me at all.

I think my point is, my ex, was a model son, neighbour, employee, no one knew about his heroin addiction til that moment.

He lied in court to protect his reputation, made it out I started an argument. He had no prior convictions either.

But the truth DOES come out in the end. My statement, timeline, story, was consistent, the call to my mum from my phone, her timeline, all consistent. His was a desperate lie and they unpicked it. The truth, will come out, it always does. Xxx

This has given me lots of hope

Poor you
I'm very very sorry you went through this

Xxxxx

Hey im fine, it made me strong as hell. I'm one of the lucky ones that got out the first time something happened. It's the ones who feel trapped and too afraid I feel the most sad for.

But you, you're a strong one too, and one day you can tell your story to the next woman who is afraid. Seriously, be a strong one. Take no prisoners, hold your head up and tell the truth, and no matter what happens in court he will see your strength and know he can't ever hurt you again. Xx

Exactly

I did nothing wrong
I never lied

I was way too kind and trusting
And gave him so many chances
20 times I escaped and he came after me
Red flags at 3 weeks pregnant
But I stayed
As I worried for his mental state
Fool

Now we shall see

Thanks all x

Also most say if anyone gets a chance to listen back to woman's hour bbc4 today a very brave person spoke out about the process and the court system

Love to you all btw and thanks for the help you offered me over last while xxxx