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Husband using Only Fans

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BillyAndTheSillies · 14/10/2020 22:19

DH and I don't share finances but he himself mentioned his credit card statement was less than usual. I don't know why, but for some unknown reason when the statement came in today and was left on the side of the kitchen I picked it up.

The first line was a payment for an Only Fans subscription. I know what it is, and know a lot of people use it for things that aren't sexual but let's be honest, not many do.

I've confronted him about it, he said he saw a reality person on a tabloid website mentioned as having an Only Fans account and curiosity got the better of him.

I know he watches porn, he's always been open and honest about it and I genuinely don't really have an issue with him watching it (I know as a woman I should, but I don't). But there's something about the fact that he paid for it this time.

I'm fuming. We've been going through a weird time and arguing quite a lot recently and it just feels like as things were starting to get better, this comes up.

I suppose I just wanted to vent, I'm not going to leave him over it. And if he'd have mentioned that he'd done it or was going to, I might have even laughed, called him a knob and moved on. But I can't help but feel this may have been going on longer than this particular statement I found.

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MiaGracie · 17/10/2020 22:13

It doesn't sound as if he's addicted.
Free porn has no interaction and that is why so many use only fans.

It makes them feel special or something.

It sound more that he's having some crisis MH wises and is probably lost and is taking his shit out on you which needs to STOP.

You need to have a honest conversation, if he is unable then you need to give him some directions you request to be completed.
Therapy etc,

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