Grumpy partner

[Preggyanne]

Hi I’m 35 weeks pregnant and need some advice. My partner has been so grumpy lately and sometimes short with me and my son(from previous relationship). I’m frustrated because he says he s happy and he doesn’t mean to be short with us. He helps around the house and rarely complains about anything. I know we are both stressed right now as hoping to move soon. It s just making me feel down as I suffer from anxiety and depression. Just seems mostly directed to me but I’m confused as when we talk he says how happy he is and can’t wait for baby etc just his actions don’t match up. Recently he said he s scared and doesn’t feel prepared but I don’t either as had a previous traumatic birth and a large gap with my oldest and this child.
Any advice

He needs to work on managing his emotions. Being scared and feeling unprepared pre birth are natural but it is not fair of him to take that out on you.

Have you told him that his behaviour is upsetting you? You need to have a frank discussion with him, it sounds like you both have a lot going on and the stress is taking its toll on him, but again it is unnaceptable to take that out on you and your son.

@IJustWantSomeBees is right. He needs to work on managing emotions.

The bottom line is that he needs to be more self aware, and try harder not to act out his stress. Being stressed is reasonable, acting stressed all the time is unreasonable and unfair. He needs to understand the impact on those around him, and adjust his behaviour accordingly, he is not a child.