Regular poster name change because I may be being a paranoid idiot but I am asking seriously. My DP of 5 years doesnt live with me. Generally he is a good partner although he has his twatty moments.
But some things give me cause for concern
1 he deletes his text messages- when I asked him why he said to save storage
2 A couple of months ago he had a massive phone bill that he told me about. He said it was call to his depressed friend.
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He has lied to me about some stupid things and some more serious.
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He can be very secretive.
In his favour his family are very intrusive so I can understand why he might want privacy. Ive never had any solid evidence just suspicious behaviour.
I accused him a couple of years ago when we were going through a rough patch and he was shocked that I thought it well seemed it (or maybe that I caught him)
Sometimes I couldn't believe that he would do that but sometimes I think he may be a very good actor.
Generally I am a suspicious person but I have never thought that any of my previous boyfriends were cheating.
If I confront him I feel he will just deny it and without any proof we will be back to square one. I have thought of counselling but I dont know if we would get to the bottom of it with out him being truthful. He isnt a compulsive liar or anything but when confronted will always lie rather than face the consequences.