I hate texting - what's going on here?

[jaggy23]

Been speaking to a guy who I met years ago and we recently started texting. We've been texting quite a lot for 2 weeks now. Things have been going really well - it's been quite flirty, he'd always make conversation, ask me about my life, tell me funny stories in detail, send long texts, ask about my day, flirt with me, send me pictures of what he was up to - he seemed really interested and an absolute angel. Dropped hints about meeting up, making flirty jokes etc. He's absolutely lovely and he has pointed out that we are very similar and have the same interests.

But the last few days I've noticed he's suddenly a bit colder? Like, he's still texting back and starting conversation but it's less often and some quite generic like "hey hope you're alright", much less flirting and like detailed texts about his day. I don't really know how to deal with it because I really felt it was going really well? I don't want to come across needy but I was really enjoying it and it just seems he's not that bothered anymore. What do I do?

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation

Let me tell you what's going to happen.

He's going to put in the minimum effort for the next 2 months until he gets to the UK.

You will meet, he will be effusive with compliments, gifts, activities, meals out, including you in family/friend meet ups, and lots of probably pretty good sex.

Then he'll fuck off again, happy that he's had fun but there's no emotional commitment.

You, otoh will be left heartbroken because you thought you "meant something" to him. And you do mean something - you mean fun.

Do not put your emotional energy into this man. You will get hurt. Stick to men who are dateable. You are wasting time on this guy.

This! You already like him in more than a casual way. Why are you letting yourself progress this when the outcome can only realistically be him spending time with you for a bit when he's back then him leaving again?! You're setting yourself up for heartbreak and it's silly.

It's just sad cos we spoke an awful lot and seemed really good for each other and really similar, and he has been really really nice, but now it's just getting annoying simply just texting when I really want to see him :( I want to keep the whole mindset of just playing it cool until he comes home, but I don't want him to lose interest

Last 4 posters have given you wonderful advice. Listen to it.

Its not going to end well for you op.

@jaggy23

It's just sad cos we spoke an awful lot and seemed really good for each other and really similar, and he has been really really nice, but now it's just getting annoying simply just texting when I really want to see him :( I want to keep the whole mindset of just playing it cool until he comes home, but I don't want him to lose interest

If you're having to "play it cool" in a bid to keep someone's interest then you're already exhibiting unhealthy relationship behaviours because you aren't being your true self and are pretending to feel a way you don't feel. Also he isn't coming back permanently. You're really keen to invest your time, effort and feelings into something that can't work - can you see you're only setting yourself up for heartbreak?