Nowhere to have sex

[Ribrabrob]

I live in an area where most single people house share (I think because it’s such an expensive area). I am living alone however for various reasons I cannot have guests.

I’m starting to date (in a bid to get over someone!) and I’ve been on a few dates with a guy who lives with another flat mate who works unsociable hours and who doesn’t allow guests. Apparently the flat mate has a girlfriend who he doesn’t have over either.

This is going to be a problem going forward. Has anyone ever been in this situation and how did you overcome it? I thought perhaps a hotel maybe once every few weeks but it just seems a bit... sad, let alone expensive.

Any advice appreciated!

I really would invite him over to yours OP, I'm sure he'll be looking at you not the decor! It's not even as if the state of the house is any reflection on you, you are looking after it for a friend, and have made all the temporary reasonable improvements that you can. I'm sure he'll understand.

“There is a vagina and boobs in front of me, but THE CARPET HAS SEEN BETTER DAYS.”

😂😂😂😂

Also just tell the guy the situation - it's not that hard to understand?

'So I'm house sitting rn for a friend. The house isn't to my taste and it's a bit scruffy but I want to spend my cash on having a life rn?

Guy - ok then 😀

Where there's a willy, there's a way.

I’m with PP - just invite the guy to the place you’re living now.

Male view. Provided there aren't too many wild animals wandering around, we really don't care. Get him back to yours. Trust me.

This reminds me of the Friends episode where Ross dates the hot girl who lives in a pig sty.

@12309845653ghydrvj

“There is a vagina and boobs in front of me, but THE CARPET HAS SEEN BETTER DAYS.”

Said no man, ever!!

Ive just woken the kids up laughing to this. What a great start to the day.

Provided there aren't too many wild animals wandering around, we really don't care 😂

@12309845653ghydrvj

“There is a vagina and boobs in front of me, but THE CARPET HAS SEEN BETTER DAYS.”

Said no man, ever!!

100% this!

You can't want it that much imo.

This?

Oh op just have him at yours and be honest. X

@12309845653ghydrvj

“There is a vagina and boobs in front of me, but THE CARPET HAS SEEN BETTER DAYS.”

Said no man, ever!!

😂

He won’t care, OP. Quick explanation if you feel you need to and get down to it 🤷🏼‍♀️

For gods sake have a bit of a tidy up and invite him round!!!!!
I cannot believe I'm even reading this!

He probably wouldn't even care if he is interested in you!!

My boyfriend and I were in this situation for a month or two, as when we first met we had both been locked out by our previous partners (it wasn’t an affair!!! We just met each other on a double rebound), and I was living with my parents and he works away abroad loads an, at that point on the nights he wasn’t abroad, was just staying with family/friends or sleeping in his car! We used to go to hotels - Premier Inn is cheap and really nice! Even now I am renting a house and he has a camper, we occasionally still go to Premier Inns in different towns just for the Hell of it!

Locked out should read kicked out. Tho we were both.

You know that his mates are also probably telling him that you're not single, not that into him, etc?

Im getting the sense that your friend was a bit of a hoarder and the house is worse than you've said. Why dont you ask him to come and pick you up in one day so he can see it, and see where you are coming from? Then go out for lunch...

Agree with the Premier Inn suggestions. However, I'd not risk breaking the trust of a friend by having people over. I'd feel violated if someone invited strangers to my house. Maybe if the relationship continues for a decent length, you could ask her about it. PP were right, he'd not care about the state of it.

As PP's said, he honestly won't care about the wallpaper or whatever, especially if he's getting a shag.

Tart the place up a bit if you want to before he comes round, but he won't mind.

You could get internet in somehow for your own enjoyment maybe? Or get a large/unlimited data package for phone and something to watch programmes on that you can link it to.

Just tell him you're a property guardian - because essentially you are. They look after buildings that need someone inside them, either for free or a very nominal rent. Property guardians live in all kinds of places.