Struggling with my mental health

[Greenleavesarebrown]

I'm angry, hurt and constantly in tears.
I want my feelings to be met, my words to be heard and my boundaries not to be crossed.

I dont fully feel as though I can go into everything right now, but my head is a complete mess and I have nobody in rl to talk to. I dont know where to turn and its affecting my day to day life with my dc. I've barely cooked all week haven't cleaned the house and this morning I couldn't even get up to take them to school.

What do I do?

Are you on antidepressants? Not everyone's first choice but they helped me immensely. My mind was cluttered and I couldn't think straight. After a few months that fog cleared.
If you are willing to take meds then speak to your gp ASAP. They also offer councling or cbt therapy which you would be put on a waiting list for.

If your boundaries are being crossed and you are not being heard by a partner, then potentially the solution is to end the relationship. Obviously seek help and support for any depression or anxiety you're suffering alongside that, but if it's caused by the situation you're in, you need to make some life changes.

Sorry you are feeling this way op. You are not alone; I think many of us are struggling ATM.

Are you talking about teens? If so, it won't do them any harm to leave them to their own devices for a couple of days. Take some time out for yourself.

Depression can serve a good purpose sometimes in that it stops us labouring on and on without success and forces us to stop and reassess.

I hope you can get some RL support and that you feel better soon.

Please go to your GP. I've been where you are and I'm on anti-depressants now. It can make a very big difference. Please don't suffer in silence.

Long-term you may need therapy of some sort (depending on what it is that is making you feel this way), but, in the meantime, anti-depressants can help you to function.

How are you op?

I'm not great tbh. There is just so much going on right now, I'm finding it hard to just focus on what my main problem is and what I need to fix.

Sorry to hear you are feeling like this OP. Have you thought about talking to someone like Mind, Samaritans or your GP about how you are feeling?

I'm 4 months ahead of you. I was resistant to antidepressants after having a hellish time coming off them. I lost control completely which led to even bigger issues. The very best advice I can give is to talk to someone you trust. Let it all out. Then, just focus on one thing at a time eg do the dishes, cook a meal, get to bedtime. Definitely contact your GP too, I'm now on totally different medication, as antidepressants haven't worked in the 15 years I took them. You can do this, but just focus on one day at a time.

I find it very hard to talk to people face to face especially friends or family, as I've always been the strong person and the one who holds everything together but right now I'm falling.
I'm crying writing this, cry myself to sleep most nights. I want to scream because when I do speak about some of the issues that are affecting me I'm not heard and labelled angry bitter or jealous.

I think maybe talking to an impartial person like a GP or mental health organisation like Samaritans or Mind would be useful. They don’t judge and are there to listen and you could speak to them on the phone or online if you find face to face difficult

Op I think this resource 'Therapy in a Nutshell' is excellent www.therapynutshell.com/

There are on-line courses you follow for a fee but there are also a lot of free resources on You Tube that I think are really helpful. It was created by a licensed therapist who uses a lot of science-based evidence in her work. She seems eminently sane and sensible anyway and she is a mother too and she suffers from anxiety or depression (can't remember which) herself.

I don't know if the videos on-line will be very useful but I think there is one titled "first response to depression" or similar about treatment options so it might be worth having a cup of tea and taking a look?

Sorry, reading your update it looks like your depression is more situational. In that case, would a few sessions with a licensed psychologist on-line be any good?