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Do I wait? What do I do here?

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Fluffies082 · 12/10/2020 17:27

I'm 24 and I went on a girls holiday 5 years ago. We met a group of boys there and partied with them during the holiday - there was one guy I got on really well with, he had a girlfriend at the time but he was just really nice and funny, and we got on so well. We all added each other on social media etc, and have only really stayed in contact through liking the odd picture/post.

5 years down the line, he replies to one of my posts last week about something he agreed with. Somehow we have since spent the whole week chatting over text and he's actually absolutely hilarious and a sweetheart. He always restarts the conversation and seems genuinely interested in my life/asks me questions.
We tried to call on the phone for the first time yesterday but it didn't quite work because of his WiFi (I'll explain next). He said he will try and give me a call today but he hasn't mentioned it yet.

The problem is, he was travelling Europe and is staying there during covid (staying with friends too in the same rooms so calling is tricky). He says he won't be back until around Christmas time so obviously we can't meet or really take things much further before then. His home town is also 2.5 hours away from mine. It seems silly for me to hang around but I have a really good gut feeling about him, he has my sense of humour, seems like an absolute angel and we are very similar in our interests and opinions. I really would love to see him, do I wait around for that long? Is it silly to text/call someone for that period of time? Thanks 😊

OP posts:
nolovelost · 12/10/2020 17:57

What about his girlfriend??

Fluffies082 · 12/10/2020 18:01

Oh they split up years ago sorry forgot to say haha

OP posts:
category12 · 12/10/2020 18:08

Well, keep in contact and see what happens when he comes back.

I would not put your life on hold for him, tho. And I wouldn't get too intense or schmexy over the interwebz.

If in the intervening months you or he meet someone else, then so be it. If not, then work out meeting up.

Dery · 12/10/2020 22:10

"Well, keep in contact and see what happens when he comes back.

I would not put your life on hold for him, tho."

Exactly this.

Cavagirl · 12/10/2020 22:21

Oh been there done that, and bitter experience suggests if you wait around for him he won't come back/he'll come back with a girlfriend/he'll join the military (projecting perhaps!)
Good advice upthread. Get busy living. You are also far more attractive being someone who gets on with her own life and is busy with her own interests, hobbies etc. And you might meet someone you like even more in the meantime Wink

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